Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Halftime Halftime
I don't think that is actually a phrase: "halftime halftime"; but it is what came to mind. I am taking a break from blogging. Perhaps I'll be back. Sometimes I just need a break (a "halftime") to consider what I'm doing, and how to proceed from here.
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
A FAVORITE QUOTE ON PARENTING
"We live in the midst of holy teachers. Sometimes they spit up on themselves or on us. Sometimes they throw tantrums. Sometimes they cuddle us and kiss us and love us. In the good and the bad they mold our hearts, shape our souls, and invite us to experience God in newer and deeper ways. Although we may shed many tears along this sacred journey of parenting, numerous blessings await us around every bend in the road." - Gary Thomas, Sacred Parenting
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
CHAZOWN
In my discipleship journey with a group of men, we just started reading the book Chazown (the Hebrew word for "vision") by Craig Groeschel. My first favorite quote:
"the decisions you are making today are actually making the bed you will lie in while you wait to die."
"the decisions you are making today are actually making the bed you will lie in while you wait to die."
Saturday, September 13, 2014
PLEASE DISCIPLE ME
I don't know if those words are used very often; and even trying to get people who are willing to disciple or be discipled is a difficult task. But in those moments when people show a desire to take their next steps in Christ; and to help others take their next steps, there is nothing better. What I have found, is that in order to disciple someone, they need to have a desire. It is not easy, and real discipleship take everything we have and involves all we are. Comfortable Christianity is a foreign concept to true discipleship.
In a previous church, I had some guys who asked me to disciple them. But after I began, they quit; and eventually asked me to leave the church. I guess they didn't know what they were asking for; or perhaps their intentions were somewhat veiled. I don't know. Anytime someone shows interest, I will take it at face value and move ahead with helping them grow. And of course, when people turn against you, in any phase or life or relationship, it is always harder when you have invested yourself in them, and opened up your life to them.
All of that makes what God is doing, right now, in my present ministry, so encouraging and special for me personally. There are 10 guys who stepped up and basically said: "Disciple me." And in saying that, they also knew they were also saying this: "I want to become a disciple maker." They have committed a year of their lives to our process; and they know it won't stop with a year. It will then be up to them to take all that God has done in their experience and pass it on to someone else. This is what it is all about: disciples becoming disciple-makers. I'm having a hard time thinking about anything more important.
In fact, what I have noticed; is that with my focus on discipleship, the other external, temporary aspects of church ministry don't mean as much to me anymore. The facility, the numbers of attendance and finances; and even those who are complaining about things. These used to be my focus because they were the urgent things always in front of me. I was comparing myself to other "successful" pastors and churches. Now that discipleship is my personal focus and church focus, completely, those "other things" don't defeat or discourage me as much. I know that discipleship is what will last...eternally!
I have grateful to God for these men who said "disciple me"; and they really mean it!
In a previous church, I had some guys who asked me to disciple them. But after I began, they quit; and eventually asked me to leave the church. I guess they didn't know what they were asking for; or perhaps their intentions were somewhat veiled. I don't know. Anytime someone shows interest, I will take it at face value and move ahead with helping them grow. And of course, when people turn against you, in any phase or life or relationship, it is always harder when you have invested yourself in them, and opened up your life to them.
All of that makes what God is doing, right now, in my present ministry, so encouraging and special for me personally. There are 10 guys who stepped up and basically said: "Disciple me." And in saying that, they also knew they were also saying this: "I want to become a disciple maker." They have committed a year of their lives to our process; and they know it won't stop with a year. It will then be up to them to take all that God has done in their experience and pass it on to someone else. This is what it is all about: disciples becoming disciple-makers. I'm having a hard time thinking about anything more important.
In fact, what I have noticed; is that with my focus on discipleship, the other external, temporary aspects of church ministry don't mean as much to me anymore. The facility, the numbers of attendance and finances; and even those who are complaining about things. These used to be my focus because they were the urgent things always in front of me. I was comparing myself to other "successful" pastors and churches. Now that discipleship is my personal focus and church focus, completely, those "other things" don't defeat or discourage me as much. I know that discipleship is what will last...eternally!
I have grateful to God for these men who said "disciple me"; and they really mean it!
Monday, September 1, 2014
A THANK YOU TO THE CHURCH I GREW UP IN
It hit me, again, just a couple days ago, as I was sitting in a conference that was meant to encourage pastors and leaders of small churches. It seems, in my own heart, and in the books I have read and presentations I have seen, that the churches we grew up in are highly criticized and almost completely dismissed. That didn't happen in the conference I attended this weekend, but I have read and heard it often. I do understand why many of those churches are criticized. They tended to be the more traditional churches that seemed to have some priorities out of whack, came across legalistic; and perhaps didn't seem to be centered on the gospel or attracting many to come hear the gospel. There are many things that can be on that list of criticisms I have read and heard.
But then it hit me...Maybe we are the ones thinking wrongly about this. We are very careful to be up to date in ministry and thinking; and that usually includes criticizing the way others used to or
do ministry. However, if we were to go back 40 years, to the previous generation, weren't they doing the same thing? They were making some changes from the previous generation; and they were doing what they believer would honor God as it relates to all areas of ministry. Some of the cultural and church climate issues of their day led to some of the ways they approached things. Was it really wrong? Were they completely ignorant to the gospel and the pursuit of glorifying God through making disciples? Probably not.
So, instead of pointing out the errors of the church I grew up in, I want to list the top 10 things I am grateful for, as it relates to Grandview Park Baptist Church in Des Moines, Iowa:
1. Many families worshipped together, and that was a great blessing for me
2. The Word of God was valued and preached
3. There was an emphasis on trusting in Christ for salvation
4. We were encouraged to get involved in ministry, even at a young age
5. Prayer was highlighted and depended on
6. Children's and youth ministries were well supported
7. There was an emphasis on sharing our faith with others
8. Pursuing holiness and Christ-likeness was talked about often
9. Partnering with other churches was encouraged
10. This was the ministry where I first learned about Jesus, was baptized, grew through serving, committed my life to serving God in ministry; and gained incredible, valuable experiences that led to spiritual growth.
So, today I want to thank my parents, my pastors, and the entire church family of Grandview Park Baptist Church, for the eternal impact you had on my life and many others. Don't live in the past. Don't allow the criticisms to distract you. Evaluate everything; and then keep doing what you believe God has called you to - for His glory!
But then it hit me...Maybe we are the ones thinking wrongly about this. We are very careful to be up to date in ministry and thinking; and that usually includes criticizing the way others used to or
do ministry. However, if we were to go back 40 years, to the previous generation, weren't they doing the same thing? They were making some changes from the previous generation; and they were doing what they believer would honor God as it relates to all areas of ministry. Some of the cultural and church climate issues of their day led to some of the ways they approached things. Was it really wrong? Were they completely ignorant to the gospel and the pursuit of glorifying God through making disciples? Probably not.
So, instead of pointing out the errors of the church I grew up in, I want to list the top 10 things I am grateful for, as it relates to Grandview Park Baptist Church in Des Moines, Iowa:
1. Many families worshipped together, and that was a great blessing for me
2. The Word of God was valued and preached
3. There was an emphasis on trusting in Christ for salvation
4. We were encouraged to get involved in ministry, even at a young age
5. Prayer was highlighted and depended on
6. Children's and youth ministries were well supported
7. There was an emphasis on sharing our faith with others
8. Pursuing holiness and Christ-likeness was talked about often
9. Partnering with other churches was encouraged
10. This was the ministry where I first learned about Jesus, was baptized, grew through serving, committed my life to serving God in ministry; and gained incredible, valuable experiences that led to spiritual growth.
So, today I want to thank my parents, my pastors, and the entire church family of Grandview Park Baptist Church, for the eternal impact you had on my life and many others. Don't live in the past. Don't allow the criticisms to distract you. Evaluate everything; and then keep doing what you believe God has called you to - for His glory!
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
I AM ONE
At the beginning of a summer message series on the Church, I gave a challenge called: I Am One.
The message series was entitled: The Plan, as it focused on the one and only plan Jesus left us with, as to what we were to do until He returns: Make Disciples! We may all approach it differently and communicate it differently, but it is THE PLAN we are to be following. Of course, it is all about following Him! Our church purpose statement puts it this way: Following Jesus one step at a time.
As we take our next steps in following Jesus and come alongside someone else to take the next step, we are making disciples.
Over the summer, in looking for 100 people in our little church, there have been 84 so far that have taken the challenge. They have signed a "I am one" paper and posted it to the board under the cross. It has been encouraging to see the response our people have had, to pursue discipleship individually, and as a church. Over the summer, we have shared what our discipleship process is here; and how we can all be a part of it. So, once again, here is the challenge that was made; and to which others can still commit:
I AM ONE
The challenge is this: We are looking for 100 people who attend Weymouth Community Church, who would commit to making our purpose statement their main focus: Following Jesus One Step At A Time. This is all about discipleship. Jesus' final command to his followers included one main imperative: "make disciples". The other phrases explained what would be included in the process of this one main command: Going, baptizing, and teaching others to obey all that Jesus said.
There are 2 key questions that a person who makes discipleship the main focus is going to continually ask: What is my next step?; Who am I helping take their next step? These 2 questions can keep us thinking about and pursuing the one thing we are supposed to be doing. We get distracted by so many other things in life, including good things in church. We are interested in the music style, preaching style, the facility, the programs, and so many other things.
But what would happen if we kept our focus on the main thing? What is it was all about THE Plan? What could be accomplished, even in a small church, if 100 people dedicated themselves to following Jesus one step at a time? Are you 1 of those 100 that God is calling? If so, then make your statement:
The message series was entitled: The Plan, as it focused on the one and only plan Jesus left us with, as to what we were to do until He returns: Make Disciples! We may all approach it differently and communicate it differently, but it is THE PLAN we are to be following. Of course, it is all about following Him! Our church purpose statement puts it this way: Following Jesus one step at a time.
As we take our next steps in following Jesus and come alongside someone else to take the next step, we are making disciples.
Over the summer, in looking for 100 people in our little church, there have been 84 so far that have taken the challenge. They have signed a "I am one" paper and posted it to the board under the cross. It has been encouraging to see the response our people have had, to pursue discipleship individually, and as a church. Over the summer, we have shared what our discipleship process is here; and how we can all be a part of it. So, once again, here is the challenge that was made; and to which others can still commit:
I AM ONE
The challenge is this: We are looking for 100 people who attend Weymouth Community Church, who would commit to making our purpose statement their main focus: Following Jesus One Step At A Time. This is all about discipleship. Jesus' final command to his followers included one main imperative: "make disciples". The other phrases explained what would be included in the process of this one main command: Going, baptizing, and teaching others to obey all that Jesus said.
There are 2 key questions that a person who makes discipleship the main focus is going to continually ask: What is my next step?; Who am I helping take their next step? These 2 questions can keep us thinking about and pursuing the one thing we are supposed to be doing. We get distracted by so many other things in life, including good things in church. We are interested in the music style, preaching style, the facility, the programs, and so many other things.
But what would happen if we kept our focus on the main thing? What is it was all about THE Plan? What could be accomplished, even in a small church, if 100 people dedicated themselves to following Jesus one step at a time? Are you 1 of those 100 that God is calling? If so, then make your statement:
I AM ONE
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
PLAYING HURT
As an athlete, or former athlete (is seems), playing hurt is a phrase often heard and applied to those athletes who practice and perform, who play, even with injury. Sometimes you can't continue, such as the gruesome leg fracture that Paul George, who plays for Team USA (and the Indiana Pacers) just experienced. Many times, however, you see players get hit in the head, or bleed from different parts of their body, or twist parts awkwardly, but are able to continue (unless a doctor or coach tells them they cannot). We usually admire those, who push the pain aside, and continue fighting for their team (as long as it is "our" team!).
And then, there are those, like me, who get hurt (probably because of my advancing age); and yet try to come back and play anyway (probably because my mind sometimes tricks me into thinking I'm getting younger). That's just plain stupidity. Last week, while playing basketball (still the greatest game in the world (if you're not counting Settlers of Catan!), I was kneed in the ribs; and with concerns of internal bleeding (no evidence, just concerns), I went to the ER to get checked out. Turns out it was just bruising, or more specifically, the muscles around the ribs were contused (or something like that). All I knew, is that the pain worsened during the day and so I went.
But a few days later, after not doing anything to aggravate it, it was time to go play basketball again. I felt pretty good; so why not. I'll be careful. What an idiot. I was fine for a while, but as soon as I was pushed, in that very spot on my side, I went down in pain (anyone who didn't know what happened a few days before probably thought I was a wimp). I made sure they knew I almost died at the ER the other day (well, I did go to the ER; and there have been people who died after going there, right?). The rest of the morning I was sore; and by evening, I was hurting as much as I did when I first injured myself. Hopefully I learned my lesson, and I won't be playing basketball until I am fully healed (doubtful, but I can hope).
I don't know if it is because I'm a pastor, but I couldn't help but think of the spiritual application here. We all are "playing hurt". We all start out injured so badly, that only heart surgery, performed by someone else, will heal us. But even if we have a new heart, and changed life, we still battle a sinful nature, we still "play hurt". And yes, we should be playing, but we need to play, we need to live, understanding fully where how we are hurt, and where we are vulnerable. There are times when we need to protect certain areas; and times when we need the healing touch that only comes through some more surgery:some repentance, confession and forgiveness.
In sports, it is often said that we should never allow others to know or see our weaknesses and vulnerable areas. And yet, in our walk with God, it is exactly the opposite. The more we reveal our weaknesses, the more it is evident that God's strength is our power; and His grace is sufficient. So, keep playing hurt, but do it in the grace of God.
And then, there are those, like me, who get hurt (probably because of my advancing age); and yet try to come back and play anyway (probably because my mind sometimes tricks me into thinking I'm getting younger). That's just plain stupidity. Last week, while playing basketball (still the greatest game in the world (if you're not counting Settlers of Catan!), I was kneed in the ribs; and with concerns of internal bleeding (no evidence, just concerns), I went to the ER to get checked out. Turns out it was just bruising, or more specifically, the muscles around the ribs were contused (or something like that). All I knew, is that the pain worsened during the day and so I went.
But a few days later, after not doing anything to aggravate it, it was time to go play basketball again. I felt pretty good; so why not. I'll be careful. What an idiot. I was fine for a while, but as soon as I was pushed, in that very spot on my side, I went down in pain (anyone who didn't know what happened a few days before probably thought I was a wimp). I made sure they knew I almost died at the ER the other day (well, I did go to the ER; and there have been people who died after going there, right?). The rest of the morning I was sore; and by evening, I was hurting as much as I did when I first injured myself. Hopefully I learned my lesson, and I won't be playing basketball until I am fully healed (doubtful, but I can hope).
I don't know if it is because I'm a pastor, but I couldn't help but think of the spiritual application here. We all are "playing hurt". We all start out injured so badly, that only heart surgery, performed by someone else, will heal us. But even if we have a new heart, and changed life, we still battle a sinful nature, we still "play hurt". And yes, we should be playing, but we need to play, we need to live, understanding fully where how we are hurt, and where we are vulnerable. There are times when we need to protect certain areas; and times when we need the healing touch that only comes through some more surgery:some repentance, confession and forgiveness.
In sports, it is often said that we should never allow others to know or see our weaknesses and vulnerable areas. And yet, in our walk with God, it is exactly the opposite. The more we reveal our weaknesses, the more it is evident that God's strength is our power; and His grace is sufficient. So, keep playing hurt, but do it in the grace of God.
Friday, July 18, 2014
MEANINGFUL OR MEANINGLESS
As I read through the Bible this year, it encourages me to read the portions of Scripture I don't normally run to for encouragement. Today I was reading Ecclesiastes, and was greeted with these opening words:
"Meaningless! Meaningless! says the teacher. "Utterly Meaningless! Everything is meaningless!" (1:2)
What a beginning to a very meaningful book. Solomon writes about things we don't like to really think about. Some of the principles of this book seem to fit with people who might look on life with discouragement: "life is hard and then you die" kind of mentality. There is certainly a tone in the book that no matter how hard you work, and no matter what you do, it ends up seeming empty, useless, vain - meaningless!
And yet if you read carefully, you also see hints of meaning. Understanding that this life is short, just a breath, there is a reason to enjoy every blessing that God gives. This includes work and what comes from it. It includes special relationships and all that entails. It includes wisdom and knowledge and the advantages of both. It includes some practical advice such as we read in Proverbs. And although the final chapter includes another reminder: "Meaningless! Meaningless! says the Teacher. Everything is meaningless!" (12:8), it also includes this:
"Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind." (12:13)
There are blessings to be found in this short life; and most do everything they can to pursue fleeting happiness and satisfaction in what this life provides. But I do think that Solomon, in all His God given wisdom knew the truth: Real satisfaction only comes through an intimate relationship with God. At the conclusion of everything, it all has to do with a right relationship with our Creator. To Fear God is not to cower and live terrified of condemnation. But it is to live a life of love, submitting our lives to the One who gave His life for us.
When we do that, we experience all the joy and peace and fulfillment that is available; even in the midst of a short, temporal life that is full of difficulty. We find out satisfaction in Him. If I focus, today, on responding to God for who He is and what He has done (life worship), I can also experience all the blessings that God gives me today. This makes life meaningful.
"Meaningless! Meaningless! says the teacher. "Utterly Meaningless! Everything is meaningless!" (1:2)
What a beginning to a very meaningful book. Solomon writes about things we don't like to really think about. Some of the principles of this book seem to fit with people who might look on life with discouragement: "life is hard and then you die" kind of mentality. There is certainly a tone in the book that no matter how hard you work, and no matter what you do, it ends up seeming empty, useless, vain - meaningless!
And yet if you read carefully, you also see hints of meaning. Understanding that this life is short, just a breath, there is a reason to enjoy every blessing that God gives. This includes work and what comes from it. It includes special relationships and all that entails. It includes wisdom and knowledge and the advantages of both. It includes some practical advice such as we read in Proverbs. And although the final chapter includes another reminder: "Meaningless! Meaningless! says the Teacher. Everything is meaningless!" (12:8), it also includes this:
"Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind." (12:13)
There are blessings to be found in this short life; and most do everything they can to pursue fleeting happiness and satisfaction in what this life provides. But I do think that Solomon, in all His God given wisdom knew the truth: Real satisfaction only comes through an intimate relationship with God. At the conclusion of everything, it all has to do with a right relationship with our Creator. To Fear God is not to cower and live terrified of condemnation. But it is to live a life of love, submitting our lives to the One who gave His life for us.
When we do that, we experience all the joy and peace and fulfillment that is available; even in the midst of a short, temporal life that is full of difficulty. We find out satisfaction in Him. If I focus, today, on responding to God for who He is and what He has done (life worship), I can also experience all the blessings that God gives me today. This makes life meaningful.
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
WHO GREETED ME WITH: "HELLO FATHER"?
It took me by surprise; but then again, not really. I should be used to it by now. And, in reality, I love it when I hear someone say it. This is not the normal greeting my children give me, and you can rule them out as the suspects. It was said to me this past weekend, after I had officiated at a wedding. I was dressed in a normal suit and tie and did the wedding as I have been for 20 years. The things I say are fairly normal in evangelical circles; and when I introduce myself, I always say: "Hi, I'm Greg." So, with all that in mind, why would someone, and who would it be that would say: "Hello Father"?
It was the wedding photographer; and he is very familiar, in wedding settings, of the Catholic terminology for those who officiate. He may even be Catholic himself, although I'm sure he would have been able to recognize that I was not. He wanted me to know how much he appreciated how I officiated the wedding and told me that I did a great job. That was kind. But what struck me most was his calling me "Father". I wasn't offended by it at all. I have learned, over the years, to just accept and understand it when people call me that. But, more than that, I have come to really appreciate it when called "Father".
It has nothing to do with titles. I'm not a "titles" kind of guy. I stay away from them, at least for myself. And from my background, calling a minister "Father" was not seen as a good thing. Here is why I love hearing it. Normally, when someone calls me "Father", it means that I have been in a situation to minister to this person in some way, from God's Word. It also normally means that this person is not a devoted follower of Jesus. Not every time, of course, but in most cases, when I have talked to that person who called me "Father", I found out they are somewhat religious, but do not follow Jesus as a disciple.
I want nothing more than to be used by God to help people take their next steps in Jesus and to follow Him wholeheartedly. Many times, those who know the correct terminology are set in their ways and are not necessarily interested in doing what it will take to follow Him more closely. But when someone who calls me "Father" is willing to hear God's Word, I find they are much more open about finding out what God has to say to them. So, although I prefer to have my children call me "dad", the people I pastor to call me "Greg", I love it when someone who is searching for answers, and thinks that maybe the Bible has them, calls me "Father"!
It was the wedding photographer; and he is very familiar, in wedding settings, of the Catholic terminology for those who officiate. He may even be Catholic himself, although I'm sure he would have been able to recognize that I was not. He wanted me to know how much he appreciated how I officiated the wedding and told me that I did a great job. That was kind. But what struck me most was his calling me "Father". I wasn't offended by it at all. I have learned, over the years, to just accept and understand it when people call me that. But, more than that, I have come to really appreciate it when called "Father".
It has nothing to do with titles. I'm not a "titles" kind of guy. I stay away from them, at least for myself. And from my background, calling a minister "Father" was not seen as a good thing. Here is why I love hearing it. Normally, when someone calls me "Father", it means that I have been in a situation to minister to this person in some way, from God's Word. It also normally means that this person is not a devoted follower of Jesus. Not every time, of course, but in most cases, when I have talked to that person who called me "Father", I found out they are somewhat religious, but do not follow Jesus as a disciple.
I want nothing more than to be used by God to help people take their next steps in Jesus and to follow Him wholeheartedly. Many times, those who know the correct terminology are set in their ways and are not necessarily interested in doing what it will take to follow Him more closely. But when someone who calls me "Father" is willing to hear God's Word, I find they are much more open about finding out what God has to say to them. So, although I prefer to have my children call me "dad", the people I pastor to call me "Greg", I love it when someone who is searching for answers, and thinks that maybe the Bible has them, calls me "Father"!
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
THE PERFECT MARRIAGE
Today, Teresa and I celebrate 20 years of marriage. It is unbelievable that we have been married for 20 years; and there is something about the milestone of 20 that brings back some extra memories. Some memories are unrelated, such as the fact that 20 years ago yesterday, on the night before our wedding, we were doing what most everyone else in America was doing: watching O.J. Simpson driving down a highway in California, as he was wanted for questioning in the death of his wife. But much more importantly, although watched by less people, I married my best friend and the most beautiful woman in the world on June 18, 1994.
Now, back to the title of this blog entry. Just in case you thought I was referring to my marriage as the perfect marriage....I was! But maybe not in the way you think. We are far from perfect, and we have had our challenges over the years like anyone else. I have probably caused the majority of any problems because of my selfish, sinful nature. We would never say we have the perfect marriage as it is normally defined. We have enjoyed these 20 years, and I am so grateful to God for the gift of my wife and for these amazing 20 years.
The "perfect" part relates to one way that "perfect" can be translated in Scripture. It can mean "mature" rather than flawless. And as I think about God's purpose in our sanctification, and discipleship as our main goal in life, we do have the "perfect" marriage. Why? Because, from my perspective, the greatest way in which God has used my marriage in my life, and hers, is that He has used this most intimate relationship to bring both of us closer to Him. The details of marriage, over these years, have tested us, to seek God's face and keep all of our hope in Him alone. Growing in Christ, to a greater maturity, means that our marriage has indeed been "perfect" so far.
Happy Anniversary Teresa! By God's grace, I look forward to our next year of "perfection": growing closer to one another and Him!
Now, back to the title of this blog entry. Just in case you thought I was referring to my marriage as the perfect marriage....I was! But maybe not in the way you think. We are far from perfect, and we have had our challenges over the years like anyone else. I have probably caused the majority of any problems because of my selfish, sinful nature. We would never say we have the perfect marriage as it is normally defined. We have enjoyed these 20 years, and I am so grateful to God for the gift of my wife and for these amazing 20 years.
The "perfect" part relates to one way that "perfect" can be translated in Scripture. It can mean "mature" rather than flawless. And as I think about God's purpose in our sanctification, and discipleship as our main goal in life, we do have the "perfect" marriage. Why? Because, from my perspective, the greatest way in which God has used my marriage in my life, and hers, is that He has used this most intimate relationship to bring both of us closer to Him. The details of marriage, over these years, have tested us, to seek God's face and keep all of our hope in Him alone. Growing in Christ, to a greater maturity, means that our marriage has indeed been "perfect" so far.
Happy Anniversary Teresa! By God's grace, I look forward to our next year of "perfection": growing closer to one another and Him!
Saturday, June 14, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 20
I have come to the end of my list of 20 lessons I have learned in over 20 years since I began pastoral ministry. As I have put together this list, I have realized a few things: There are many more lessons I have learned that I could write about; I am still learning these things as well as much more; and God is so full of grace, to allow me to do this, even at the times when I feel I know absolutely nothing! Writing these things down has reminded me of how much I love being a pastor, and how thankful I am to God for this privilege. So, that brings me to:
Lesson 20: I have learned to take the next step
This sums up so much. It sums up this entire list. It sums up my pastoral ministry. It sums up my life's purpose. One of the greatest things God has done for me, over my life, is to help me simplify what can be very complicated. It is very hard, but it is somewhat simple. Wherever I am in my walk with Jesus, I need to identify it and then take the next step. When I am working with other people, I need to help them identify where they are with Jesus, and then help them take the next step.
I have many more steps to take, and I fail often. But it has helped me tremendously to focus on what is in front of me, what I can control; and on what God is calling me to do. If I can continue to live in that mindset, in ministry, family and life, then I believe I will be honoring God with my life, and He will see me as successful.
Lesson 20: I have learned to take the next step
This sums up so much. It sums up this entire list. It sums up my pastoral ministry. It sums up my life's purpose. One of the greatest things God has done for me, over my life, is to help me simplify what can be very complicated. It is very hard, but it is somewhat simple. Wherever I am in my walk with Jesus, I need to identify it and then take the next step. When I am working with other people, I need to help them identify where they are with Jesus, and then help them take the next step.
I have many more steps to take, and I fail often. But it has helped me tremendously to focus on what is in front of me, what I can control; and on what God is calling me to do. If I can continue to live in that mindset, in ministry, family and life, then I believe I will be honoring God with my life, and He will see me as successful.
Sunday, May 25, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 19
Lesson 19: I have learned to let people go gracefully
As a pastor, one of the harder things to do is let people go, once they have decided to leave the church. If they are moving out of the area, for whatever reason, it is not as hard. But, if they are choosing to leave the church you pastor, it is hard not to take it personally. Unfortunately, it is a part of life and ministry, and I don't know of any pastor, regardless of church size, that has not experienced it. I suppose there are times of rejoicing when certain people leave the church; but for most of us, as shepherds who love our people, we wish they would stay and grow spiritually with us.
I wish I could say, that after 20 years of ministry, it is now easy to see people choose to leave the church I lead. But it is not. It still hurts to think that they are choosing to disconnect themselves with this particular fellowship, and our purpose of making disciples in our church, community and world. And certainly, people leave churches for good and bad reasons. What I have found is that the challenge lies with me: how am I going to respond to their leaving; and how am I going to lead our church in responding in a Christ-like way?
And this is what God has given me, through my brother, and through others I am sure: "We are not losing them to the Kingdom." I love that phrase, I love that thought, I love that truth. When we focus on "losing them", we think about discouraging thoughts like: "they must not like us; what did we do wrong; what is this going to do to our church; what are others going to think, etc." But these are all selfish type thoughts, not God-centered, not gospel-centered, not discipleship centered. The truth, assuming that they are followers of Jesus, is that we have not lost them to the Kingdom.
Instead of trying to figure out motives or make assessments, we leave them in God's hands. We believe that God can move them, when He desires, where He desires, and for His own purposes. God is going to put them, just like us, in just the right place, to do His work for this time. I believe that God, right now, has every pastor and every person in the church He wants them to be in, so that His plan and will can be accomplished in our lives. That includes some of the tough growing opportunities when we are with people who challenge us, or even do wrong in our midst.
This is not about having a continually growing, happy, problem free, comfortable church. This is about having a church focused on discipleship, and willing to accept anyone and release anyone that God brings to us or takes away. God gives and He takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord! If we can have that perspective, then we can let people go gracefully. There does not need to be nasty e-mails, or gossip, bitterness, or division. There can be a grace filled celebration, that although we are sad at their going, we are excited about what God has planned for them, and for us in the future. We can bless them as they go.
As a pastor, one of the harder things to do is let people go, once they have decided to leave the church. If they are moving out of the area, for whatever reason, it is not as hard. But, if they are choosing to leave the church you pastor, it is hard not to take it personally. Unfortunately, it is a part of life and ministry, and I don't know of any pastor, regardless of church size, that has not experienced it. I suppose there are times of rejoicing when certain people leave the church; but for most of us, as shepherds who love our people, we wish they would stay and grow spiritually with us.
I wish I could say, that after 20 years of ministry, it is now easy to see people choose to leave the church I lead. But it is not. It still hurts to think that they are choosing to disconnect themselves with this particular fellowship, and our purpose of making disciples in our church, community and world. And certainly, people leave churches for good and bad reasons. What I have found is that the challenge lies with me: how am I going to respond to their leaving; and how am I going to lead our church in responding in a Christ-like way?
And this is what God has given me, through my brother, and through others I am sure: "We are not losing them to the Kingdom." I love that phrase, I love that thought, I love that truth. When we focus on "losing them", we think about discouraging thoughts like: "they must not like us; what did we do wrong; what is this going to do to our church; what are others going to think, etc." But these are all selfish type thoughts, not God-centered, not gospel-centered, not discipleship centered. The truth, assuming that they are followers of Jesus, is that we have not lost them to the Kingdom.
Instead of trying to figure out motives or make assessments, we leave them in God's hands. We believe that God can move them, when He desires, where He desires, and for His own purposes. God is going to put them, just like us, in just the right place, to do His work for this time. I believe that God, right now, has every pastor and every person in the church He wants them to be in, so that His plan and will can be accomplished in our lives. That includes some of the tough growing opportunities when we are with people who challenge us, or even do wrong in our midst.
This is not about having a continually growing, happy, problem free, comfortable church. This is about having a church focused on discipleship, and willing to accept anyone and release anyone that God brings to us or takes away. God gives and He takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord! If we can have that perspective, then we can let people go gracefully. There does not need to be nasty e-mails, or gossip, bitterness, or division. There can be a grace filled celebration, that although we are sad at their going, we are excited about what God has planned for them, and for us in the future. We can bless them as they go.
Saturday, May 17, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 18
Lesson 18: I have learned that success in ministry is simple
Sounds unbelievable doesn't it? Most everyone I know in ministry, or who has ever been in ministry, including myself, might first look at this statement and respond: no it's not! But, over these 20 years in ministry, I have truly come to believer that true success in ministry is, actually, simple. I know I need to explain. I haven't always believed that.
No matter how hard I tried over the years to believe that true ministry success was about faithfulness to God and His calling, I think I really believed what I had been told, was reading and heard at conferences: true ministry success is about numerical growth and being considered a large church. Even large churches and "successful" pastors will try to avoid this statement, but by what they say and write; and how they respond to smaller churches, it is the message that comes across loud and clear. It is all about helping a church plant or smaller, more traditional church, turn around and become a growing, larger church. And the pastors that are able to do it, are the ones sought after, to write the books, speak at the conferences, and counsel the unsuccessful pastors how to be successful.
Just in case you think I am against larger churches, or pastors of larger churches, it is not true. I actually am impressed by larger churches that are faithful to God's Word and that are making disciples at home as well as around the world. I love reading and hearing from larger church pastors, that include some of my favorite authors, friends and even an awesome brother! The ones I love and am impressed with are the ones who don't try to make themselves superstars. They make it all about the glory of God and making disciples. If they come across wrongly, it is not because they are intending to. It may just be the way we smaller church pastors hear and perceive things.You can be a growing church and successful at the same time.
But here is what I learned. It has nothing to do with numerical growth. I know the arguments that disagree with that statement, but I am not going to take the time, here, to debunk them. I just believe this is true. I have experienced the pursuit, albeit with a desire just to honor God and make disciples, of trying to read the right books, follow the right counsel, and do everything I could, with God's power and guidance, to grow a church and see it become large for the glory of God. But He didn't allow it to happen. Some might say it because of how sinful I am. Some might say it is because of my lack of leadership skills. I have come to believe that neither of those statements are true. I might be wrong by the way! I believe it is something else.
I believe it is God's will for me and the churches I have led, that our success has not been in the numbers, or incredible growth that would lead anyone to call us a large successful church. Instead, my success, our success, has come from something very simple. Now notice I didn't say success was easy. It is not. It takes a everything you have to invest in it. But, in the end, being successful in God's eyes is very simple. I don't disagree, as other small church pastors have said in the past, that it is all about faithfulness. But, I like to think in different terms, even if it gets to the same meaning.
I believe successful ministry is simple: Doing, at the moment, what God has called you to do.
So, this included all the aspects of ministry, that might or might not lead to numerical growth. It includes seeing ministry from a full biblical perspective rather than from the perspective of the church or other "successful" pastors out there. It is about focusing on God's perspective in His Word. And when I focus on that, I come away with this: Doing, at the moment, what God has called me to do. That includes some tough things like confession of sin, admission of weakness and confrontation, just to name a few. But it also includes some very joyful experiences such as preaching, leadership and investing in people's lives for eternity.
It is a lesson I have learned and am still learning. If I am right and this is true success, than even I have the chance that one day Jesus will look at this small church pastor in the eyes, open His arms and say: Well done, good and faithful servant!
Sounds unbelievable doesn't it? Most everyone I know in ministry, or who has ever been in ministry, including myself, might first look at this statement and respond: no it's not! But, over these 20 years in ministry, I have truly come to believer that true success in ministry is, actually, simple. I know I need to explain. I haven't always believed that.
No matter how hard I tried over the years to believe that true ministry success was about faithfulness to God and His calling, I think I really believed what I had been told, was reading and heard at conferences: true ministry success is about numerical growth and being considered a large church. Even large churches and "successful" pastors will try to avoid this statement, but by what they say and write; and how they respond to smaller churches, it is the message that comes across loud and clear. It is all about helping a church plant or smaller, more traditional church, turn around and become a growing, larger church. And the pastors that are able to do it, are the ones sought after, to write the books, speak at the conferences, and counsel the unsuccessful pastors how to be successful.
Just in case you think I am against larger churches, or pastors of larger churches, it is not true. I actually am impressed by larger churches that are faithful to God's Word and that are making disciples at home as well as around the world. I love reading and hearing from larger church pastors, that include some of my favorite authors, friends and even an awesome brother! The ones I love and am impressed with are the ones who don't try to make themselves superstars. They make it all about the glory of God and making disciples. If they come across wrongly, it is not because they are intending to. It may just be the way we smaller church pastors hear and perceive things.You can be a growing church and successful at the same time.
But here is what I learned. It has nothing to do with numerical growth. I know the arguments that disagree with that statement, but I am not going to take the time, here, to debunk them. I just believe this is true. I have experienced the pursuit, albeit with a desire just to honor God and make disciples, of trying to read the right books, follow the right counsel, and do everything I could, with God's power and guidance, to grow a church and see it become large for the glory of God. But He didn't allow it to happen. Some might say it because of how sinful I am. Some might say it is because of my lack of leadership skills. I have come to believe that neither of those statements are true. I might be wrong by the way! I believe it is something else.
I believe it is God's will for me and the churches I have led, that our success has not been in the numbers, or incredible growth that would lead anyone to call us a large successful church. Instead, my success, our success, has come from something very simple. Now notice I didn't say success was easy. It is not. It takes a everything you have to invest in it. But, in the end, being successful in God's eyes is very simple. I don't disagree, as other small church pastors have said in the past, that it is all about faithfulness. But, I like to think in different terms, even if it gets to the same meaning.
I believe successful ministry is simple: Doing, at the moment, what God has called you to do.
So, this included all the aspects of ministry, that might or might not lead to numerical growth. It includes seeing ministry from a full biblical perspective rather than from the perspective of the church or other "successful" pastors out there. It is about focusing on God's perspective in His Word. And when I focus on that, I come away with this: Doing, at the moment, what God has called me to do. That includes some tough things like confession of sin, admission of weakness and confrontation, just to name a few. But it also includes some very joyful experiences such as preaching, leadership and investing in people's lives for eternity.
It is a lesson I have learned and am still learning. If I am right and this is true success, than even I have the chance that one day Jesus will look at this small church pastor in the eyes, open His arms and say: Well done, good and faithful servant!
Saturday, May 10, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 17
Lesson 17: I have learned to have an open hand approach to ministry and everything else
Over the past few years, this is how I have described to people how I view the ministry God has given me, as well as every thing and every relationship. Since everything I have, including ministry, is God-given, then it all belongs to Him. That is easier to say than to actually practice. It is human nature for all of us, and that certainly includes me, to hold tightly to the things we value. For many years, I held tightly to pastoral ministry. Since that is what God called me to, I seemed gifted for it and I loved it, I never wanted to let it go. And when God tested me, to see if I was willing to let it go, I just tightened my grip even more. God had to teach me, the hard way, that I needed to hold everything He had given me with an open hand.
I picture it this way. Put your hand out in front of you, open-handed. Imagine your closest relationship or task or job or hobby or material possession in that hand. Close your fist tightly. This is how I used to approach ministry, and even my family. But, as some have learned in even the most precious of relationships, God sometimes takes them away; and there is nothing we can do about it. It is very difficult to come to the place that Job came to, after losing his 10 children in death, he said: "The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord." Only a person who has an open hand approach can sincerely say something like that when something of great value is taken away. I had to face if I was willing to do that with ministry.
Now, open your hand once again and picture that most precious thing in your hand. Extend your arm and your hand outward and upward. Picture yourself saying to God: Lord, My __________________
(fill in the blank with the appropriate thing - i.e. job, family, health, etc.) is yours. It has always been yours. It is not mine to hold onto. It is for me to be a good steward of this gift you have given me. I love it, but it is still yours. You can take it from me at any time. I will not fight you over it. Until then, I will be grateful that I have it, value it as a precious gift; and do my best to be the best steward of it, as long as you allow me to have it.
That prayer sums up what I have learned to do, as it relates to a particular ministry, or even ministry all together. I am also learning to do that with my wife and children. How about you?
Over the past few years, this is how I have described to people how I view the ministry God has given me, as well as every thing and every relationship. Since everything I have, including ministry, is God-given, then it all belongs to Him. That is easier to say than to actually practice. It is human nature for all of us, and that certainly includes me, to hold tightly to the things we value. For many years, I held tightly to pastoral ministry. Since that is what God called me to, I seemed gifted for it and I loved it, I never wanted to let it go. And when God tested me, to see if I was willing to let it go, I just tightened my grip even more. God had to teach me, the hard way, that I needed to hold everything He had given me with an open hand.
I picture it this way. Put your hand out in front of you, open-handed. Imagine your closest relationship or task or job or hobby or material possession in that hand. Close your fist tightly. This is how I used to approach ministry, and even my family. But, as some have learned in even the most precious of relationships, God sometimes takes them away; and there is nothing we can do about it. It is very difficult to come to the place that Job came to, after losing his 10 children in death, he said: "The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord." Only a person who has an open hand approach can sincerely say something like that when something of great value is taken away. I had to face if I was willing to do that with ministry.
Now, open your hand once again and picture that most precious thing in your hand. Extend your arm and your hand outward and upward. Picture yourself saying to God: Lord, My __________________
(fill in the blank with the appropriate thing - i.e. job, family, health, etc.) is yours. It has always been yours. It is not mine to hold onto. It is for me to be a good steward of this gift you have given me. I love it, but it is still yours. You can take it from me at any time. I will not fight you over it. Until then, I will be grateful that I have it, value it as a precious gift; and do my best to be the best steward of it, as long as you allow me to have it.
That prayer sums up what I have learned to do, as it relates to a particular ministry, or even ministry all together. I am also learning to do that with my wife and children. How about you?
Saturday, April 26, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 16
Lesson 16: I have learned to rest
Growing up, resting was not something that was highly valued; except on Sunday, the day of rest! But instead, hard work was valued, and by watching my dad give everything he had to everything he did, I learned some very good, important lessons about life. I have carried some of that work ethic with me into ministry. I take it very seriously and I give myself to it, completely, while I am doing it. Ministry, and especially pastoral ministry, is one of those occupations where you are not on a time clock, from 8 a.m. - 4 p.m. Since it is a people kind of job, you are always "on call", so to speak, and the work is never done. I have learned to work really hard at every aspect of the pastoring role.
What I have found to be the most challenging, as it relates to giving effort, time and everything into ministry, the hardest part is getting the needed rest. With a high value on working hard; and with everyone expecting different things from a pastor, it is way too easy to work too much, to get burned out; and end up not being effective at any role, including being a pastor, husband, father and friend. I have learned to value rest, so that I can do, effectively, everything God has called me to do (not necessarily the things I or others would like for me to do). With that said, here some aspects of resting that I have learned and continue to learn along the way:
Now, go take a nap!
Growing up, resting was not something that was highly valued; except on Sunday, the day of rest! But instead, hard work was valued, and by watching my dad give everything he had to everything he did, I learned some very good, important lessons about life. I have carried some of that work ethic with me into ministry. I take it very seriously and I give myself to it, completely, while I am doing it. Ministry, and especially pastoral ministry, is one of those occupations where you are not on a time clock, from 8 a.m. - 4 p.m. Since it is a people kind of job, you are always "on call", so to speak, and the work is never done. I have learned to work really hard at every aspect of the pastoring role.
What I have found to be the most challenging, as it relates to giving effort, time and everything into ministry, the hardest part is getting the needed rest. With a high value on working hard; and with everyone expecting different things from a pastor, it is way too easy to work too much, to get burned out; and end up not being effective at any role, including being a pastor, husband, father and friend. I have learned to value rest, so that I can do, effectively, everything God has called me to do (not necessarily the things I or others would like for me to do). With that said, here some aspects of resting that I have learned and continue to learn along the way:
- Since Sunday is not a day of rest for pastors, then I take a different day of the week, to cease from work (even ministry), and just be available to my family.
- Every day, I seek spiritual rest by spending time in prayer and Bible reading with God
- Every night, I work at getting needed physical rest, by getting to bed at a good time for me, and getting the rest I know I need to be effective.
- There are days when I just know that if I don't take a few minutes to sit, relax, or even 5 minutes to close my eyes and rest, I will not be able to focus on the rest of the day, or be productive moving forward.
- I make it a priority to take the vacation time that the church gives me. And during vacation, I do my very best to focus on my family and getting refreshed, putting all work aside.
Now, go take a nap!
Friday, April 18, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 15
Lesson 15: I have learned to maximize spiritual growth opportunities for our church
This may be one of those high on the list that I have a great deal of learning left to do. In fact, as soon as I wrote it, I began to doubt it because I can think of several times that I have missed opportunities. And I have no doubt that people who have attended the churches where I have pastored would have a list, as well, of missed or misused opportunities. If I were to give the longer version of this lesson, it would be this: I have learned to use the times of our culture and traditions of church life to maximize spiritual growth and meaningful worship.
Let me give you some examples of this, so you know what I am referring to. When there was a presidential election in 2012, and Christians were very upset about 1 of the candidates, I preached a message on: "Who Would Jesus Vote For". It was not pushing for people to vote for a particular candidate, but instead to get God's perspective on politics (which is really a perspective on God's sovereignty and purpose) from the Bible. When someone in our church committed suicide, I preached about this very sensitive topic. There have been times, because of circumstances in our church or world, I have taken the opportunity to allow God's Word to speak directly to them. This includes other topics such as homosexuality, Hell, worship music, and church leadership structure.
The opportunities that are more well known would be the seasons and days people normally celebrate, such as: Christmas, Easter, Good Friday, Mother's and Father's Day, Memorial Day, New Year's Day, etc. I actually have taken a little different approach with many of these, not preaching an entire message on the topic that connects with the day; but instead taking time in the worship service to recognize the significance of it. This includes videos, testimonies and times of prayer. My desire, in whatever we do, is to give a fresh perspective and point people's hearts and minds toward God in the context of the special season or day.
My most current examples come from this weekend. Tonight is Good Friday and we are marking it with a special worship service. Many churches celebrate Good Friday, or Maundy Thursday, or Holy Week, or Lent, or all of the above. Many others allow their people to celebrate these at home and just focus on Easter Sunday. To me, it is all about sensing God's direction and making it meaningful, whichever days we choose to focus on. Tonight, we will use a video, lots of music, a 2 part "message", and communion to give special meaning to Good Friday. The goal is to point everyone'e heart and mind to worship God for sending Jesus, over 2,000 years ago, to die for us. It is a good preparation for what will we celebrate on Sunday.
In my 2 part "message", I will be trying to get us in the thinking of what the original disciples may have remembered about that last supper and day of crucifixion, when they reflected on it in the days to come. I will use "first person" language to talk about those days, and support it with Scripture. The last thing we will do is celebrate communion and we will do it in a reflective, personal way. While the worship team plays a song about Jesus dying for us, the bread will be passed out and people can personally pray and partake of it when they are ready. While a second song plays, the cup will be passed out and we will do the same thing. When those songs end, music will play over the sound system, and when individuals are ready to leave, they can leave quietly. If they want to talk, they can go downstairs; but it will allow every person to remain as long as they would like; and it makes it a very personal worship time as we close the service.
On Sunday, Easter Sunday, Resurrection Sunday, we will be having a joint service at a nearby auditorium. Having 1 service instead of 3 in our tiny worship center will help with the environment of a celebratory Easter worship gathering. And to make it meaningful, we are doing something different this year. We will sing many songs, as usual, and we will use a video to get people's attention toward who and what we are worshiping on Sunday. The main different will be in the message time. Some years ago, I wrote a script that we used on Easter Sunday; and I re-wrote it for this year, to be used in my present ministry.
It is a courtroom setting and is entitled: The Verdict. It uses a judge, 2 attorneys, and 6 "eye witnesses", to look back 2,000 years and ago, in order to determine if Jesus really did rise from the dead. The audience is the jury, and at the end, they will be asked to mark their verdict cards and make their own decision. Their decision on the resurrection of Jesus can make a huge different as to whether or not they will follow Him and how they will live the rest of their lives. We expect to have guests present that have not yet made that decision; and we pray God might use this fresh approach to change their hearts and lives!
There is so much more for me to learn in this area; but these are some examples of how I am trying to take advantage, for spiritual growth purposes, of special events and seasons in the lives of our people.
This may be one of those high on the list that I have a great deal of learning left to do. In fact, as soon as I wrote it, I began to doubt it because I can think of several times that I have missed opportunities. And I have no doubt that people who have attended the churches where I have pastored would have a list, as well, of missed or misused opportunities. If I were to give the longer version of this lesson, it would be this: I have learned to use the times of our culture and traditions of church life to maximize spiritual growth and meaningful worship.
Let me give you some examples of this, so you know what I am referring to. When there was a presidential election in 2012, and Christians were very upset about 1 of the candidates, I preached a message on: "Who Would Jesus Vote For". It was not pushing for people to vote for a particular candidate, but instead to get God's perspective on politics (which is really a perspective on God's sovereignty and purpose) from the Bible. When someone in our church committed suicide, I preached about this very sensitive topic. There have been times, because of circumstances in our church or world, I have taken the opportunity to allow God's Word to speak directly to them. This includes other topics such as homosexuality, Hell, worship music, and church leadership structure.
The opportunities that are more well known would be the seasons and days people normally celebrate, such as: Christmas, Easter, Good Friday, Mother's and Father's Day, Memorial Day, New Year's Day, etc. I actually have taken a little different approach with many of these, not preaching an entire message on the topic that connects with the day; but instead taking time in the worship service to recognize the significance of it. This includes videos, testimonies and times of prayer. My desire, in whatever we do, is to give a fresh perspective and point people's hearts and minds toward God in the context of the special season or day.
My most current examples come from this weekend. Tonight is Good Friday and we are marking it with a special worship service. Many churches celebrate Good Friday, or Maundy Thursday, or Holy Week, or Lent, or all of the above. Many others allow their people to celebrate these at home and just focus on Easter Sunday. To me, it is all about sensing God's direction and making it meaningful, whichever days we choose to focus on. Tonight, we will use a video, lots of music, a 2 part "message", and communion to give special meaning to Good Friday. The goal is to point everyone'e heart and mind to worship God for sending Jesus, over 2,000 years ago, to die for us. It is a good preparation for what will we celebrate on Sunday.
In my 2 part "message", I will be trying to get us in the thinking of what the original disciples may have remembered about that last supper and day of crucifixion, when they reflected on it in the days to come. I will use "first person" language to talk about those days, and support it with Scripture. The last thing we will do is celebrate communion and we will do it in a reflective, personal way. While the worship team plays a song about Jesus dying for us, the bread will be passed out and people can personally pray and partake of it when they are ready. While a second song plays, the cup will be passed out and we will do the same thing. When those songs end, music will play over the sound system, and when individuals are ready to leave, they can leave quietly. If they want to talk, they can go downstairs; but it will allow every person to remain as long as they would like; and it makes it a very personal worship time as we close the service.
On Sunday, Easter Sunday, Resurrection Sunday, we will be having a joint service at a nearby auditorium. Having 1 service instead of 3 in our tiny worship center will help with the environment of a celebratory Easter worship gathering. And to make it meaningful, we are doing something different this year. We will sing many songs, as usual, and we will use a video to get people's attention toward who and what we are worshiping on Sunday. The main different will be in the message time. Some years ago, I wrote a script that we used on Easter Sunday; and I re-wrote it for this year, to be used in my present ministry.
It is a courtroom setting and is entitled: The Verdict. It uses a judge, 2 attorneys, and 6 "eye witnesses", to look back 2,000 years and ago, in order to determine if Jesus really did rise from the dead. The audience is the jury, and at the end, they will be asked to mark their verdict cards and make their own decision. Their decision on the resurrection of Jesus can make a huge different as to whether or not they will follow Him and how they will live the rest of their lives. We expect to have guests present that have not yet made that decision; and we pray God might use this fresh approach to change their hearts and lives!
There is so much more for me to learn in this area; but these are some examples of how I am trying to take advantage, for spiritual growth purposes, of special events and seasons in the lives of our people.
Monday, April 14, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 14
Lesson 14: I have learned to pray
If you have read any of my previous posts about the lessons I have learned, then you already know that I don't think I have fully arrived on any of these. Prayer is one of those things that we all could improve on. I haven't met one person yet, in my almost half a century of life, who have said that they are fully satisfied with their "prayer life" and they have no improvements to make in that area!
I have certainly learned a variety of things about prayer over the years. I have prayed in many different ways through the years as well. There are many good resources that can help us with prayer. But, the one thing I have learned, that has helped me the most, has nothing to do with acrostic helps or books or conferences or prayer positions. It has to do with an attitude, a posture, a mindset that is about consistency.
In learning to pray, the one verse that comes to mind is:
I Thessalonians 5:17 - "Pray continually"
There has been many thoughts given as it relates to this phrase; but the one thing that has stuck in my mind and heart; and has been lived out in practice, is the main thing I have learned about praying.
It is personal. It is conversational. It is real.
What I have learned is to talk to God as I would to anyone else in relationship. The differences are that God is Spirit, I can talk to Him anytime, and it is the most important relationship to me. I can talk to Him in the car, in bed, in the shower, anytime, anywhere. I find myself talking to God ALL THE TIME! And that has helped me, incredibly, in keeping God in mind and including Him in every aspect of my life. I find myself confessing my sins more often, keeping focus on the right things more often, and even keeping God's Word in mind much more readily.
I sing to Him, I cry out to Him, and I sometimes find myself getting upset, as the authors of some of the Psalms often do. I am learning to be real with God; and as far as I am concerned, that is prayer!
If you have read any of my previous posts about the lessons I have learned, then you already know that I don't think I have fully arrived on any of these. Prayer is one of those things that we all could improve on. I haven't met one person yet, in my almost half a century of life, who have said that they are fully satisfied with their "prayer life" and they have no improvements to make in that area!
I have certainly learned a variety of things about prayer over the years. I have prayed in many different ways through the years as well. There are many good resources that can help us with prayer. But, the one thing I have learned, that has helped me the most, has nothing to do with acrostic helps or books or conferences or prayer positions. It has to do with an attitude, a posture, a mindset that is about consistency.
In learning to pray, the one verse that comes to mind is:
I Thessalonians 5:17 - "Pray continually"
There has been many thoughts given as it relates to this phrase; but the one thing that has stuck in my mind and heart; and has been lived out in practice, is the main thing I have learned about praying.
It is personal. It is conversational. It is real.
What I have learned is to talk to God as I would to anyone else in relationship. The differences are that God is Spirit, I can talk to Him anytime, and it is the most important relationship to me. I can talk to Him in the car, in bed, in the shower, anytime, anywhere. I find myself talking to God ALL THE TIME! And that has helped me, incredibly, in keeping God in mind and including Him in every aspect of my life. I find myself confessing my sins more often, keeping focus on the right things more often, and even keeping God's Word in mind much more readily.
I sing to Him, I cry out to Him, and I sometimes find myself getting upset, as the authors of some of the Psalms often do. I am learning to be real with God; and as far as I am concerned, that is prayer!
Saturday, April 5, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 13
20 years seems like a really long time; but as others as old as I can attest, it goes very, very quickly! It is hard to remember all the details of all of these years as a pastor, and yet there are many lessons that come to mind, as I think and pray about it all. I am a continual learner, and with every lesson I am reminded that all of these things can be unlearned if not practiced. When I say "I have learned", it is true; but it is equally true I am still learning these very things.
Lesson 13: I have learned to recognize and say what God wants me to say
I am sure that all who follow Jesus would say it is important to recognize what God wants us to do and say; and then to do it. I would think that most would also admit that although this seems pretty simple, it is almost never easy. Additionally, if we really do what God wants, it doesn't mean that everyone else will like it. In fact, just as with Jesus Himself, when you do and say what God directs, it may bring very a very critical and negative reaction; even from those closest to you, even from those who claim to believe in and follow God. Following Jesus completely is full of tough choices; especially as it relates to doing and saying everything God directs us to do and say.
When it comes to being a pastor, a communicator of God's Word, I find this especially tricky. Unless someone has been in this role, it may be hard to fully understand what extra challenges pastors face in this area of what to say - especially in public preaching/teaching. There are a couple of other very real challenges to add to the challenge of my role. I like to please people. I want people to like me. It is very hard for me to say something that I fear others may not like. Add to this the fact that my personality lends itself to blending in rather than sticking out and being noticed. I know this sounds strange for a pastor who speaks in front of crowds every week; but it is true. Therefore, although I like to be creative in my preaching, when possible, I want people to remember God's truth and not my theatrics, so to speak.
I have failed often, but one thing I have learned (and am learning) is to recognize what God wants me to say and then to say it. I have to do that without worrying about the consequences. When I am communicating God's Word, it is up to me to be His messenger and represent Him. Therefore, I pray, not only about what to preach, but how to preach it. And this also includes sensitive issues and times of counseling and tough conversations. There have been many times when I recognize that what I believe God wants me to say is not going to go over well; and I have to make a decision: is this about pleasing people or about pleasing God.
This is a continual lesson to learn. Whether in preaching or counseling or leading or casual conversation, I desire that God will be pleased. And in those circumstances where others will not, I will commit myself and others into God's hands; and suffer any consequences - for His glory! This is really what God has called all of us to do. If we do and say, in our world, what He has asked, we will suffer, in some way; and yet God will smile, and someday give us our reward: Well done, good and faithful servant!
Lesson 13: I have learned to recognize and say what God wants me to say
I am sure that all who follow Jesus would say it is important to recognize what God wants us to do and say; and then to do it. I would think that most would also admit that although this seems pretty simple, it is almost never easy. Additionally, if we really do what God wants, it doesn't mean that everyone else will like it. In fact, just as with Jesus Himself, when you do and say what God directs, it may bring very a very critical and negative reaction; even from those closest to you, even from those who claim to believe in and follow God. Following Jesus completely is full of tough choices; especially as it relates to doing and saying everything God directs us to do and say.
When it comes to being a pastor, a communicator of God's Word, I find this especially tricky. Unless someone has been in this role, it may be hard to fully understand what extra challenges pastors face in this area of what to say - especially in public preaching/teaching. There are a couple of other very real challenges to add to the challenge of my role. I like to please people. I want people to like me. It is very hard for me to say something that I fear others may not like. Add to this the fact that my personality lends itself to blending in rather than sticking out and being noticed. I know this sounds strange for a pastor who speaks in front of crowds every week; but it is true. Therefore, although I like to be creative in my preaching, when possible, I want people to remember God's truth and not my theatrics, so to speak.
I have failed often, but one thing I have learned (and am learning) is to recognize what God wants me to say and then to say it. I have to do that without worrying about the consequences. When I am communicating God's Word, it is up to me to be His messenger and represent Him. Therefore, I pray, not only about what to preach, but how to preach it. And this also includes sensitive issues and times of counseling and tough conversations. There have been many times when I recognize that what I believe God wants me to say is not going to go over well; and I have to make a decision: is this about pleasing people or about pleasing God.
This is a continual lesson to learn. Whether in preaching or counseling or leading or casual conversation, I desire that God will be pleased. And in those circumstances where others will not, I will commit myself and others into God's hands; and suffer any consequences - for His glory! This is really what God has called all of us to do. If we do and say, in our world, what He has asked, we will suffer, in some way; and yet God will smile, and someday give us our reward: Well done, good and faithful servant!
Saturday, March 29, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 12
Lesson 12: I have learned to repent
Lesson 11 was about learning to repeat; and this idea of repenting is certainly something I have had to repeat, and repeat, and repeat again. At first sound, the word repent sounds like something that should be reserved for those terrible sinners who need to repent before they spend eternity in Hell. It has the ring of a street preacher who is yelling the word incessantly. It has the image of a sidewalk protester who is holding a sign using the word repent connected to something they disagree with; and God might as well. But the idea of repentance, the biblical idea, is stronger and broader in its application that Christians have traditionally viewed it.
Repentance is about change. It is a change of mind. It is a change of direction. It is different than confession. To confess means to "say the same thing". In biblical context, when we confess our sins, we are saying that we agree with how God views our actions, our words, our thoughts - that they are against Him, in violation of His Word. We might even list the specific sins, but it is in the agreement we have about those sins that there is true confession. There is a difference between a child, for example, who agrees at a parents insistence that she did not tell the truth, and actually saying the same thing about her lying that God does - agreeing with God about it.
Repentance takes this a crucial step further. Repentance focuses on a 180 degree turn. If you were going in the direction of lying, you know turn the opposite direction and start telling the truth, even becoming known as a truth teller. Repentance is not just a one time confessing of sin, but the beginning of living in opposition to that sin - a real heart and life change. This is only something God's Spirit can do; but it also includes our willingness to be changed, to live differently. We think about it differently, and pursue a very different path as it relates to that particular thing.
Repentance is for non-believers as they first come to Christ and their lives are forever changed. But repentance is also for believers, as we continue to struggle with sin, our old nature, and need to constantly turn from it. Repentance is for pastors, who are real people, real followers of Jesus, and need real, continual repentance. This took me a long time to realize and to put into action in my life. I thought repentance would bring criticism and disappointment from others, and bring shame to God. I thought repentance would take me out of ministry, especially if I was repenting about something that people didn't think pastors should struggle with.
I have learned to repent. And in doing so, there are some key aspects that have helped me in the continual process of repentance:
Lesson 11 was about learning to repeat; and this idea of repenting is certainly something I have had to repeat, and repeat, and repeat again. At first sound, the word repent sounds like something that should be reserved for those terrible sinners who need to repent before they spend eternity in Hell. It has the ring of a street preacher who is yelling the word incessantly. It has the image of a sidewalk protester who is holding a sign using the word repent connected to something they disagree with; and God might as well. But the idea of repentance, the biblical idea, is stronger and broader in its application that Christians have traditionally viewed it.
Repentance is about change. It is a change of mind. It is a change of direction. It is different than confession. To confess means to "say the same thing". In biblical context, when we confess our sins, we are saying that we agree with how God views our actions, our words, our thoughts - that they are against Him, in violation of His Word. We might even list the specific sins, but it is in the agreement we have about those sins that there is true confession. There is a difference between a child, for example, who agrees at a parents insistence that she did not tell the truth, and actually saying the same thing about her lying that God does - agreeing with God about it.
Repentance takes this a crucial step further. Repentance focuses on a 180 degree turn. If you were going in the direction of lying, you know turn the opposite direction and start telling the truth, even becoming known as a truth teller. Repentance is not just a one time confessing of sin, but the beginning of living in opposition to that sin - a real heart and life change. This is only something God's Spirit can do; but it also includes our willingness to be changed, to live differently. We think about it differently, and pursue a very different path as it relates to that particular thing.
Repentance is for non-believers as they first come to Christ and their lives are forever changed. But repentance is also for believers, as we continue to struggle with sin, our old nature, and need to constantly turn from it. Repentance is for pastors, who are real people, real followers of Jesus, and need real, continual repentance. This took me a long time to realize and to put into action in my life. I thought repentance would bring criticism and disappointment from others, and bring shame to God. I thought repentance would take me out of ministry, especially if I was repenting about something that people didn't think pastors should struggle with.
I have learned to repent. And in doing so, there are some key aspects that have helped me in the continual process of repentance:
- It is about pleasing God not impressing others
- True repentance brings God's blessing, despite the consequences from others
- Modeling true repentance is one of the most important things you can do for your children and the people of the church you serve
- The more secret, the more scandalized, the more sensitive the sin, the more important it is to bring it out into the light and turn from it
- I must die to myself daily; and often that will require for me to turn from sin - for the long haul - to live differently. The process will not end until I see Jesus.
- It is not about shame, but about bringing glory to God, and boasting in the cross of Jesus!
Sunday, March 23, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 11
Lesson 11: I have learned to repeat, I have learned to repeat, I have learned to repeat...
Repetition is a good thing. Most teachers I know have not only taught that but practiced it. This is how I have learned what I have learned, and still remember different things today - because it was repeated. It makes sense. The same is true in all areas of life and ministry. And over these 20 years of being a pastor, I have learned that I need to repeat things, and that it is not only o.k. to repeat, but crucial to learning and application. So, when I am tempted to feel badly that I am saying something again and again and again, I try to remember that saying it again is the reason why it is being learned and applied. Saying it once and thinking it will stick is naïve.
One of the cool things I have seen over the years is people talking about and doing some of the things I have repeated and repeated and repeated. Without initiating it myself, it is rewarding when I realize that what I have repeated is now being repeated by others. And as long as what is repeated is honoring to God, and furthers His purposes, then it is all good! So, having learned that (or still learning it), I thought I would repeat my first 10 lessons learned from these 20 years of ministry. And perhaps, as you re-read this list, it may encourage or challenge you with the things God has been teaching you. I know it was helpful for me just to read these again:
Lesson 1: I have learned to boast in God, my weaknesses, and the cross of Jesus
Lesson 2: I have learned to be transparent
Lesson 3: I have learned to preach to myself before preaching to others
Lesson 4: I have learned to give people and the hurtful things they say, to God
Lesson 5: I have learned that everyone need to be disciple
Lesson 6: I have learned that this is God's church
Lesson 7: I have learned to listen
Lesson 8: I have learned to worship
Lesson 9: I have learned to be at home at night
Lesson 10: I have learned what I thought I learned I haven't learned
Repetition is a good thing. Most teachers I know have not only taught that but practiced it. This is how I have learned what I have learned, and still remember different things today - because it was repeated. It makes sense. The same is true in all areas of life and ministry. And over these 20 years of being a pastor, I have learned that I need to repeat things, and that it is not only o.k. to repeat, but crucial to learning and application. So, when I am tempted to feel badly that I am saying something again and again and again, I try to remember that saying it again is the reason why it is being learned and applied. Saying it once and thinking it will stick is naïve.
One of the cool things I have seen over the years is people talking about and doing some of the things I have repeated and repeated and repeated. Without initiating it myself, it is rewarding when I realize that what I have repeated is now being repeated by others. And as long as what is repeated is honoring to God, and furthers His purposes, then it is all good! So, having learned that (or still learning it), I thought I would repeat my first 10 lessons learned from these 20 years of ministry. And perhaps, as you re-read this list, it may encourage or challenge you with the things God has been teaching you. I know it was helpful for me just to read these again:
Lesson 1: I have learned to boast in God, my weaknesses, and the cross of Jesus
Lesson 2: I have learned to be transparent
Lesson 3: I have learned to preach to myself before preaching to others
Lesson 4: I have learned to give people and the hurtful things they say, to God
Lesson 5: I have learned that everyone need to be disciple
Lesson 6: I have learned that this is God's church
Lesson 7: I have learned to listen
Lesson 8: I have learned to worship
Lesson 9: I have learned to be at home at night
Lesson 10: I have learned what I thought I learned I haven't learned
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
JUDGING JUDGES
Today, I began reading through the book of Judges, along with everyone in our church that is reading through the Bible in a year. We are just reading it straight through. That brings us to Judges! There are many interesting stories in Judges, and some that may make the first time reader wonder out loud: "What did that just say? Did they really do that? Why?" If these scenes were realistically played out in a movie, it would definitely receive an "R" rating for sexual content and violence and mature subject matter. Reading it makes it seem more tame; and yet it is still quite an "eye full"!
So, what are a couple of things to keep in mind as we read through Judges; and if you are reading with your children, what might be helpful? One thing that you will be able to recognize in the book of Judges is a cycle that occurs over and over in the book. The cycle refers to how the nation of Israel responds to God, and how He responds to them.
The cycle looks something like this: Sin, judgment, confession, deliverance through a judge, time of peace, sin again. Israel will turn away from God, and as promised God will send them into bondage. Later, the people will cry out to God in repentance, and God will raise up a deliverer, a judge, to deliver his people. They are delivered and have a time of peace. But eventually, and predictably, they turn, once again, to their sin; and the cycle begins again. It can be very frustrating, until we are honest and remember that we pretty much do the same thing!
If you are reading it with your children, that is awesome! Yes, there are some tough things in Scripture, but there is no one better to lead your children through the Scriptures than you. It also forces you, as you already know, to think, to study, and to navigate through some tricky conversations (the younger your children, the more tricky those conversations are)!
You can show them this cycle, mentioned above; and also point out, that even though these judges were used by God, it doesn't mean they always did the right thing in the way they went about it. The judges were sinful as well. Take the opportunity to help them point out sin, and the trouble it causes. Also, take them to the end of the book, which explains not only what was happening in the book, but what will happen later:
Judges 21:25 - "In those days Israel had no king; everyone did as they saw fit."
The fact that everyone did what was right in their own eyes explains why we read what we read in Judges. Additionally, we see that when a king does come in Israel's future, that king is to lead people to honor and worship God.
Happy reading (and talking and questions and explaining)!
So, what are a couple of things to keep in mind as we read through Judges; and if you are reading with your children, what might be helpful? One thing that you will be able to recognize in the book of Judges is a cycle that occurs over and over in the book. The cycle refers to how the nation of Israel responds to God, and how He responds to them.
The cycle looks something like this: Sin, judgment, confession, deliverance through a judge, time of peace, sin again. Israel will turn away from God, and as promised God will send them into bondage. Later, the people will cry out to God in repentance, and God will raise up a deliverer, a judge, to deliver his people. They are delivered and have a time of peace. But eventually, and predictably, they turn, once again, to their sin; and the cycle begins again. It can be very frustrating, until we are honest and remember that we pretty much do the same thing!
If you are reading it with your children, that is awesome! Yes, there are some tough things in Scripture, but there is no one better to lead your children through the Scriptures than you. It also forces you, as you already know, to think, to study, and to navigate through some tricky conversations (the younger your children, the more tricky those conversations are)!
You can show them this cycle, mentioned above; and also point out, that even though these judges were used by God, it doesn't mean they always did the right thing in the way they went about it. The judges were sinful as well. Take the opportunity to help them point out sin, and the trouble it causes. Also, take them to the end of the book, which explains not only what was happening in the book, but what will happen later:
Judges 21:25 - "In those days Israel had no king; everyone did as they saw fit."
The fact that everyone did what was right in their own eyes explains why we read what we read in Judges. Additionally, we see that when a king does come in Israel's future, that king is to lead people to honor and worship God.
Happy reading (and talking and questions and explaining)!
Saturday, March 15, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 10
Lesson 10: I have learned what I thought I learned I haven't learned
No, it's not a typo; but I actually meant to write this down for lesson 10. Does it make sense? Let me explain. Over these past 20 years, I have learned quite a bit. But one of the important things in learning is to realize that there is always more to learn. It is one of those things I look for in a mature disciple of Jesus: he/she understands that there is always another "next step" to take in the spiritual journey. There is always more to grow in, more to learn. To me, that defines maturity. I think it is summed up well by the Apostle Paul:
"Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."
That is the attitude I hope to have when it comes to learning as a pastor. As soon as I think I have learned something, a circumstance will arise that reminds me that maybe I haven't fully learned it yet. But, I need to continue have the desire to learn, and keep pursuing it. I can't rest on what I learned in the past, good or bad; but learn from the past and move forward to more learning.
Whether it is in changing locations of ministry, or roles, or even just coming back the next week, in the same ministry and role...something always changes. To think that you can keep doing what you have always done in every area of ministry every time will lead to death - either yours or the church. To think I have learned how to best minister in some way to people and that it will always be that way is ministry suicide. It is not static. It is fluid; and it is one of the things I have learned.
So, to sum up what I am trying to say: Keep learning, keep evaluating, keep striving, keep thinking, keep asking questions, keep praying; and keep humble. That is what I have learned...I think.
No, it's not a typo; but I actually meant to write this down for lesson 10. Does it make sense? Let me explain. Over these past 20 years, I have learned quite a bit. But one of the important things in learning is to realize that there is always more to learn. It is one of those things I look for in a mature disciple of Jesus: he/she understands that there is always another "next step" to take in the spiritual journey. There is always more to grow in, more to learn. To me, that defines maturity. I think it is summed up well by the Apostle Paul:
"Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."
That is the attitude I hope to have when it comes to learning as a pastor. As soon as I think I have learned something, a circumstance will arise that reminds me that maybe I haven't fully learned it yet. But, I need to continue have the desire to learn, and keep pursuing it. I can't rest on what I learned in the past, good or bad; but learn from the past and move forward to more learning.
Whether it is in changing locations of ministry, or roles, or even just coming back the next week, in the same ministry and role...something always changes. To think that you can keep doing what you have always done in every area of ministry every time will lead to death - either yours or the church. To think I have learned how to best minister in some way to people and that it will always be that way is ministry suicide. It is not static. It is fluid; and it is one of the things I have learned.
So, to sum up what I am trying to say: Keep learning, keep evaluating, keep striving, keep thinking, keep asking questions, keep praying; and keep humble. That is what I have learned...I think.
Saturday, March 8, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 9
I feel like I could write a new lesson every week I live and pastor, because I continue to learn and re-learn...and re-learn...and then learn again! This list is in no particular order; but as I consider this topic, each week, it is not very difficult to think of another lesson I have learned...or better yet, am still learning.
Lesson 9: I have learned to be at home at night
At first look, this might not seem like a big deal. I mean, where else are you going to be at night? Is this the idea that you should sleep at home rather than staying up all night, or our at a night club? Of course not. Then, what does this mean? I have found that being a pastor and having the priority of family is not easy. Even though we certainly preach the importance and priority of family, I know many pastors who allow ministry, with others, to take the key priority and the family gets whatever is left over. Very early on, I made the commitment that this would not happen to me, to my family.
Teresa and I have talked about this issue often, and as far as I know, she and the children still feel like they are a top priority. But, it doesn't mean that this is never a challenge; or that it couldn't easily change, if I am not careful. Making family a priority over the ministry is hard. Here are some reasons why:
I am so thankful for my family, and I hope to continue to live that way.
Lesson 9: I have learned to be at home at night
At first look, this might not seem like a big deal. I mean, where else are you going to be at night? Is this the idea that you should sleep at home rather than staying up all night, or our at a night club? Of course not. Then, what does this mean? I have found that being a pastor and having the priority of family is not easy. Even though we certainly preach the importance and priority of family, I know many pastors who allow ministry, with others, to take the key priority and the family gets whatever is left over. Very early on, I made the commitment that this would not happen to me, to my family.
Teresa and I have talked about this issue often, and as far as I know, she and the children still feel like they are a top priority. But, it doesn't mean that this is never a challenge; or that it couldn't easily change, if I am not careful. Making family a priority over the ministry is hard. Here are some reasons why:
- There is no time card, or set schedule. There is always more time that could be spent in ministry
- There always tends to be something urgent to attend to in ministry
- Doing ministry in an excellent takes a lot of time and hard work
- There are some famous examples of pastors who put the ministry over their family
- Comparisons with other churches will sometimes cause pastors to do whatever is necessary to "keep up"
- Try to eat dinner with the family every night
- Be at home most evenings to be with the family
- Take my wife on regular dates
- Take my children on regular dates
- Talk to my wife and children about personal, meaningful, spiritual growth issues
- Be there for special events for my wife and children
- Take a day off each week to focus on family
- Go on vacation together
- Pray for the family every day
- Pray with the family and spend time talking about God and His Word
- Serve together
- Laugh and play together
I am so thankful for my family, and I hope to continue to live that way.
Saturday, March 1, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 8
Lesson 8: I have learned to worship
Does that sound strange? It seemed strange writing those words. What does it mean?
I suppose I need to define the words first. The idea that "I have learned" anything may sound like I have it figured out. The opposite is true. I should probably re-word all of these to say that "I am learning", because it is a continual learning process for me in every area. I define worship as: "responding to who God is and what He has done by giving myself completely to Him."
This is a life long learning process; but by God's grace, I have come a long way. And just because I have been a pastor for so many years certainly does not mean that I automatically knew how to worship, and never really struggled with it. There are a variety of areas of worship, especially as it concerns life worship that I have had to learn. One of those areas has to do with responding to God through musical worship.
When I was growing up and into my adult years, my laid back personality and conservative roots led me to worship in a fairly somber way. Regardless of the song I was singing, I might sing out loudly, but never really use any other part of my body to respond to God and His awesome truth. I would keep my eyes open, my hands at my side, my body in stillness; and if my foot started to involuntarily twitch, I would try to control it!
I used to look at people who expressed themselves in worship as "charismatic" and therefore, according to my tradition, out of whack biblically, and in need of some composure. But, over the years, I have come to admire and appreciate those, charismatic or not, who are willing to celebrate God and His truth, not just with their voices, but all of their heart and soul, in biblically appropriate responses.
I did also learn that once you express yourself in worship, publicly, that there will be stares, open comments, and even some behind the back ones. It comes with the territory for worshipers who are attempting to be faithful to God by worshiping in "spirit and in truth." And since I love being behind the scenes, and not be noticed by anyone, it has been especially hard for me to get used to. My focus has been on the God I am worshiping rather than on the people I would love to please.
So, here are some of the ways God has taught me to worship (through times of music), to respond to Him:
Does that sound strange? It seemed strange writing those words. What does it mean?
I suppose I need to define the words first. The idea that "I have learned" anything may sound like I have it figured out. The opposite is true. I should probably re-word all of these to say that "I am learning", because it is a continual learning process for me in every area. I define worship as: "responding to who God is and what He has done by giving myself completely to Him."
This is a life long learning process; but by God's grace, I have come a long way. And just because I have been a pastor for so many years certainly does not mean that I automatically knew how to worship, and never really struggled with it. There are a variety of areas of worship, especially as it concerns life worship that I have had to learn. One of those areas has to do with responding to God through musical worship.
When I was growing up and into my adult years, my laid back personality and conservative roots led me to worship in a fairly somber way. Regardless of the song I was singing, I might sing out loudly, but never really use any other part of my body to respond to God and His awesome truth. I would keep my eyes open, my hands at my side, my body in stillness; and if my foot started to involuntarily twitch, I would try to control it!
I used to look at people who expressed themselves in worship as "charismatic" and therefore, according to my tradition, out of whack biblically, and in need of some composure. But, over the years, I have come to admire and appreciate those, charismatic or not, who are willing to celebrate God and His truth, not just with their voices, but all of their heart and soul, in biblically appropriate responses.
I did also learn that once you express yourself in worship, publicly, that there will be stares, open comments, and even some behind the back ones. It comes with the territory for worshipers who are attempting to be faithful to God by worshiping in "spirit and in truth." And since I love being behind the scenes, and not be noticed by anyone, it has been especially hard for me to get used to. My focus has been on the God I am worshiping rather than on the people I would love to please.
So, here are some of the ways God has taught me to worship (through times of music), to respond to Him:
- close my eyes
- bow my head
- raise my hands (all different levels! - I picture Tim Hawkins presentation of hand raising-funny)
- pray while others are singing
- singing at the top of my lungs even if I have a bad voice
- tap my feet
- clap my hands
- in different ways, at different times, according to how I sense God leading
- with full focus on God rather than on what others might think
Thursday, February 20, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 7
Every time I write: "I have learned", I realize that perhaps I should state it: "I am learning". As a pastor, there are so many things I have learned; and yet, I continue to learn every day. in fact, much of what I say I have learned, I am really still learning. I am thankful God has not given up on me; and is still allowing me to learn, even today.
Lesson 7: I have learned to listen
I don't know if there was a time of major change in me; but as long back as I can remember, I preferred listening to talking. Most people who know me well say I'm a good listener. But, it is still something I have learned and continue to learn. Listening is not easy. The kind of listening I am referring to is connected to truly caring for people. It is also connected to helping people grow.
When I think of some things I have learned, related to listening, these come to mind:
Lesson 7: I have learned to listen
I don't know if there was a time of major change in me; but as long back as I can remember, I preferred listening to talking. Most people who know me well say I'm a good listener. But, it is still something I have learned and continue to learn. Listening is not easy. The kind of listening I am referring to is connected to truly caring for people. It is also connected to helping people grow.
When I think of some things I have learned, related to listening, these come to mind:
- Look them in the eyes
- Listen carefully
- Ask a lot of questions, for the purpose of understanding
- Laugh with them, cry with them, feel what they feel
- Point their focus to God, and the hope only He can bring
- Be faithful to God's Word in whatever you say
- Speak only if necessary
Listening well has not always elicited a thankful, grateful response. Interestingly enough, there have been times when listening in this way has caused irritation, blame and even threats. But, even in those times, I have found that listening well, by God's grace, has brought a peace and confidence that He has used me. I pray that I will continue to learn more about listening; and that I will never stop taking the time to truly care.
Thursday, February 13, 2014
NUMB IN NUMBERS?
When is the last time you had your personal devotions from the book of Numbers? When was the last time you heard any pastor speak from this book? This is not one of those books we look at very often; and once you begin reading it, you probably understand why. There are lots of details, numbers, laws, and other things we don't normally find very exciting. But, if we can keep in mind that being excited is not the highest priority for our Bible reading; and that there is great benefit to all of God's Word
(II Timothy 3:16,17), then we can stay alert and engaged rather than getting numb.
Allow me to share some introductory words, from commentator Eugene H. Merrill. As I read what he believed to be the purpose of Numbers, it was an encouragement to me, and helped me to get prepared to work through this book. Hopefully, it will be a help to you as well.
"The Book of Numbers seems to be an instruction manual to Israel. The "manual" deals with three areas: (a) how the nation was to order itself in its journeyings, (b) how the priests and Levites were to function in the condition of mobility which lay ahead, and (c) how they were to prepare themselves for the conquest of Canaan and their settled lives there.
The narrative sections, of which there are many, demonstrate the successes and failures of the Lord's people as they conformed and did not conform to the requirements in the book. The fact that the book covers the nearly 40 year period from the giving of the Law at Sinai till the eve of the Conquest points to its character as history. But it is more than a recording of history. It is history with the purpose of describing the Lord's expectations and Israel's reactions in a unique period, an era when the nation had God's promise of the land but had not yet experienced its fulfillment."
(II Timothy 3:16,17), then we can stay alert and engaged rather than getting numb.
Allow me to share some introductory words, from commentator Eugene H. Merrill. As I read what he believed to be the purpose of Numbers, it was an encouragement to me, and helped me to get prepared to work through this book. Hopefully, it will be a help to you as well.
"The Book of Numbers seems to be an instruction manual to Israel. The "manual" deals with three areas: (a) how the nation was to order itself in its journeyings, (b) how the priests and Levites were to function in the condition of mobility which lay ahead, and (c) how they were to prepare themselves for the conquest of Canaan and their settled lives there.
The narrative sections, of which there are many, demonstrate the successes and failures of the Lord's people as they conformed and did not conform to the requirements in the book. The fact that the book covers the nearly 40 year period from the giving of the Law at Sinai till the eve of the Conquest points to its character as history. But it is more than a recording of history. It is history with the purpose of describing the Lord's expectations and Israel's reactions in a unique period, an era when the nation had God's promise of the land but had not yet experienced its fulfillment."
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 6
It is hard to imagine that it has been over 20 years ago when I began pastoral ministry. It has flown by! And it is hard to remember all the details. But, there are certainly many things I do remember, and that God has brought back to mind, from time to time. These things include great blessings, as well as lessons learned along the way:
Lesson 6: I have learned that this is God's Church
That doesn't sound very ground breaking, does it? Who is going to argue with that? If I heard this over 20 years ago, I would say Amen! But saying "This is God's Church" is very different than acting as though it is. The reality of pastoral ministry is that we are "told", usually by actions and innuendo, that everything that happens with the local church and will happen in the future revolves around us. If you are a good leader, it will grow and be successful. If you are not a good leader, it will die. You must figure out how to get people saved, baptized and disciple. You must shepherd everyone, and lead them into a growing, effective ministry. Those things don't necessary sound bad.
However, that thinking is centered around the pastor, or leaders, and can easily distract us from who is really in charge. This is God' church. I don't of any pastor who preaches that the church is the building. We all preach, boldly, that the church is the group of people who assemble here. It is about people, and their spiritual growth. I know these things to be true. But, I admit, that early on in ministry, and it continues to be a temptation, I felt it was my job to get people to feel and do what they needed; and if people did not, I was a failure. I had to figure out a way to make this happen, and bring people to a growing relationship with Him.
The lesson is that since this is God's church, He is the one responsible to make happen what He wants to happen. I am responsible to being a good steward of what He has given me, for as long as He has me there. But, I should not get too attached. This isn't my church. On a very practical level, what does learning the fact that "this is God's Church" look like? A few things come to my mind:
Lesson 6: I have learned that this is God's Church
That doesn't sound very ground breaking, does it? Who is going to argue with that? If I heard this over 20 years ago, I would say Amen! But saying "This is God's Church" is very different than acting as though it is. The reality of pastoral ministry is that we are "told", usually by actions and innuendo, that everything that happens with the local church and will happen in the future revolves around us. If you are a good leader, it will grow and be successful. If you are not a good leader, it will die. You must figure out how to get people saved, baptized and disciple. You must shepherd everyone, and lead them into a growing, effective ministry. Those things don't necessary sound bad.
However, that thinking is centered around the pastor, or leaders, and can easily distract us from who is really in charge. This is God' church. I don't of any pastor who preaches that the church is the building. We all preach, boldly, that the church is the group of people who assemble here. It is about people, and their spiritual growth. I know these things to be true. But, I admit, that early on in ministry, and it continues to be a temptation, I felt it was my job to get people to feel and do what they needed; and if people did not, I was a failure. I had to figure out a way to make this happen, and bring people to a growing relationship with Him.
The lesson is that since this is God's church, He is the one responsible to make happen what He wants to happen. I am responsible to being a good steward of what He has given me, for as long as He has me there. But, I should not get too attached. This isn't my church. On a very practical level, what does learning the fact that "this is God's Church" look like? A few things come to my mind:
- All praise goes to God when lives are changed
- All criticism is accepted by us, the human beings who continually make mistakes
- I can have peace even when things are not going my way
- The goal is to accomplish His purposes not mine
- He gives and He takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!
Thursday, February 6, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 5
For 20 years now, I have had the privilege of serving God as a pastor, with some time in between with transitions. The time has gone so quickly; and it is my desire to enjoy every opportunity God gives me now and in the future to serve in this way. Part of that enjoyment is to learn from the past and to keep learning through my present experiences. If I can learn from those years, and keep an attitude of learning, I believe I can be even more effective for God's glory as I pastor into the future.
These are some of the lessons I have learned; and continue to learn:
Lesson 5: I have learned that everyone needs to be discipled
We normally think of new believers as the ones who need to be discipled; but the truth is, we all need to be. Regardless of our age or level of spiritual development, there is always a next step for us to take toward Christ for God's glory. As growing disciples, we are to be always learning more about Jesus and how to follow Him. Even the Apostle Paul made it clear that he had more growing to do, until He was with Jesus face to face.
This is not as easy, however, as it sounds. Not everyone agrees with this statement, at least in practice. In fact, I'm not sure I really believed this in my early days of ministry, as well as my growing up years. The people that I looked up to, or was taught to look up to - the ones that were considered godly, were the ones who had attended the church the longest, and usually had served in some area of the church for decades. Because of the way they dressed, and talked, and were committed to the ministry of the church, they were seen as mature, godly Christians. Some of them certainly were; and yet they always had more growing to do.
Unfortunately, the idea that once people reached a certain age, or level of respect from others, they were "untouchable", from a discipleship perspective. The only way they would have connection with discipleship is if they were the ones discipling. Additionally unfortunate is that some of those who tried to disciple were not leading others to follow Jesus more closely, but follow their own personal preferences, which they believed were equal to holiness. Of course, this was not always the case, but I have seen it enough in my life and ministry to know that it happens far too often.
So, as a pastor, I figured that it was my job, before God, to make disciples and equip people for ministry. I was to call everyone to follow Jesus, help them take their next steps (as I was taking mine), and help them learn how to help others take their next steps (discipleship). However, what I found is that certain people were, seemingly, "off limits" for discipleship. I don't know if it was my naivety, or foolishness; but I decided that if no one else was going to help them take their next steps, then as one of their pastors and shepherds, I would be willing to. I had no idea what I was in for!
I learned, fairly quickly, that some did not feel it was my place to disciple them; and took great offense at it. And I'm not necessarily talking about the kind of discipleship where you sit down for a 13 week Bible study. I'm just talking about the every day kinds of conversations where you do the "one anothers" of scripture with each other. In trying to shepherd and disciple in that way, I have had some of those who were seen as the most godly say and do some of the most ungodly things. I know I am no better, for I don't always live godly as I should. We are all in the same "boat". But, it was very disconcerting to have people respond so "violently" against my attempts to love them in that way.
One of the things I learned to do was to have others with me, who could help with the process; especially with those who were the most difficult. And I also learned, that there might come a time, when a person demonstrated they had no interest in "taking their next step", and so I didn't waste anyone's time trying to continue. The only exception would be is if they were publicly sinning, and refusing to stop. In those cases, I had no choice, biblically, but to continue helping them as God directs in His Word.
I learned to love in a way that others might call unloving. I would be very upfront with others, if they were clearly wrong; and I would tell them what God has to say, and then offer to help them. It broke my heart to have professing believers in Jesus talk and act that way, and show no desire to grow spiritually. I tried to help them see that true spiritual maturity is not in how many years we attend or serve, or how we dress or the music we listen to. It is about our walk with Jesus in His Word; and our willingness to continually submit our lives to Him. It is a sanctification process, until God takes us home.
God did use some of those times to help some of them decide to leave; and in some cases, that turned out for God's glory, because the rest of us were able to focus on growing spiritually and really loving and helping others grow in their faith. On the sad side, my willingness to love in this way turned into others pushing for me to be fired; and eventually, even several of my leaders decided I needed to go. Much of it was traced back to my willingness to disciple everyone, including those who are older, or those who serve as missionaries or other types of leaders. Even my willingness to keep growing myself and admit my own weaknesses were not enough to change people's minds.
But, as I look back, I don't regret it. God taught me a very valuable, although difficult lesson. We are to make disciples; and we are to love others enough to tell them the truth (in love). Sometimes, that turns into spiritual growth for everyone; but sometimes, it turns into people leaving or asking you to leave. Either way, there was growth; and as long as we faithfully (albeit imperfectly) follow God's Word on discipleship, it goes to His glory. And that, of course, is what it is all about in the first place.
I would do all again; and as I continue to pastor now and in the future, I pray God will give me the courage and faithfulness to keep growing and help others grow - regardless of mine or their age or level of spiritual development!
These are some of the lessons I have learned; and continue to learn:
Lesson 5: I have learned that everyone needs to be discipled
We normally think of new believers as the ones who need to be discipled; but the truth is, we all need to be. Regardless of our age or level of spiritual development, there is always a next step for us to take toward Christ for God's glory. As growing disciples, we are to be always learning more about Jesus and how to follow Him. Even the Apostle Paul made it clear that he had more growing to do, until He was with Jesus face to face.
This is not as easy, however, as it sounds. Not everyone agrees with this statement, at least in practice. In fact, I'm not sure I really believed this in my early days of ministry, as well as my growing up years. The people that I looked up to, or was taught to look up to - the ones that were considered godly, were the ones who had attended the church the longest, and usually had served in some area of the church for decades. Because of the way they dressed, and talked, and were committed to the ministry of the church, they were seen as mature, godly Christians. Some of them certainly were; and yet they always had more growing to do.
Unfortunately, the idea that once people reached a certain age, or level of respect from others, they were "untouchable", from a discipleship perspective. The only way they would have connection with discipleship is if they were the ones discipling. Additionally unfortunate is that some of those who tried to disciple were not leading others to follow Jesus more closely, but follow their own personal preferences, which they believed were equal to holiness. Of course, this was not always the case, but I have seen it enough in my life and ministry to know that it happens far too often.
So, as a pastor, I figured that it was my job, before God, to make disciples and equip people for ministry. I was to call everyone to follow Jesus, help them take their next steps (as I was taking mine), and help them learn how to help others take their next steps (discipleship). However, what I found is that certain people were, seemingly, "off limits" for discipleship. I don't know if it was my naivety, or foolishness; but I decided that if no one else was going to help them take their next steps, then as one of their pastors and shepherds, I would be willing to. I had no idea what I was in for!
I learned, fairly quickly, that some did not feel it was my place to disciple them; and took great offense at it. And I'm not necessarily talking about the kind of discipleship where you sit down for a 13 week Bible study. I'm just talking about the every day kinds of conversations where you do the "one anothers" of scripture with each other. In trying to shepherd and disciple in that way, I have had some of those who were seen as the most godly say and do some of the most ungodly things. I know I am no better, for I don't always live godly as I should. We are all in the same "boat". But, it was very disconcerting to have people respond so "violently" against my attempts to love them in that way.
One of the things I learned to do was to have others with me, who could help with the process; especially with those who were the most difficult. And I also learned, that there might come a time, when a person demonstrated they had no interest in "taking their next step", and so I didn't waste anyone's time trying to continue. The only exception would be is if they were publicly sinning, and refusing to stop. In those cases, I had no choice, biblically, but to continue helping them as God directs in His Word.
I learned to love in a way that others might call unloving. I would be very upfront with others, if they were clearly wrong; and I would tell them what God has to say, and then offer to help them. It broke my heart to have professing believers in Jesus talk and act that way, and show no desire to grow spiritually. I tried to help them see that true spiritual maturity is not in how many years we attend or serve, or how we dress or the music we listen to. It is about our walk with Jesus in His Word; and our willingness to continually submit our lives to Him. It is a sanctification process, until God takes us home.
God did use some of those times to help some of them decide to leave; and in some cases, that turned out for God's glory, because the rest of us were able to focus on growing spiritually and really loving and helping others grow in their faith. On the sad side, my willingness to love in this way turned into others pushing for me to be fired; and eventually, even several of my leaders decided I needed to go. Much of it was traced back to my willingness to disciple everyone, including those who are older, or those who serve as missionaries or other types of leaders. Even my willingness to keep growing myself and admit my own weaknesses were not enough to change people's minds.
But, as I look back, I don't regret it. God taught me a very valuable, although difficult lesson. We are to make disciples; and we are to love others enough to tell them the truth (in love). Sometimes, that turns into spiritual growth for everyone; but sometimes, it turns into people leaving or asking you to leave. Either way, there was growth; and as long as we faithfully (albeit imperfectly) follow God's Word on discipleship, it goes to His glory. And that, of course, is what it is all about in the first place.
I would do all again; and as I continue to pastor now and in the future, I pray God will give me the courage and faithfulness to keep growing and help others grow - regardless of mine or their age or level of spiritual development!
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
LABORING THROUGH LEVITICUS
In the Bible reading schedule that I and many at our church are following, we are right in the heart of Leviticus. If some passages in Genesis or Exodus did not provide some challenge to continuing, Leviticus very well may. It is full of details of ceremonies that are unique to that time, and include some things that might make us say: "yuck"! Add on to that things that just don't seem to relate to us...at all! This is a place many stop reading; and if they struggle through Leviticus, they are almost certain to stop once they begin Numbers! However, if we stick with it, fully believing that all of God's Word is breathed out by God and is profitable for our lives today (II Timothy 3:16,17), then perhaps we can continue, praying and asking God for understanding and help. One of the resources that was encouraging to me was the introduction of Leviticus in the Bible Knowledge Commentary by John Walvoord and Roy Zuck. Perhaps it can encourage you as well; and bring some context to your reading.
"The Book of Leviticus was the first book studied by a Jewish child; yet is often among the last books of the Bible to be studied by a Christian. However, a book referred to about 40 times in the New Testament should be of great significance to every Christian. Apart from the question of the typological significance of the Levitical sacrifices, the Book of Leviticus contains extensive revelation concerning the character of God - especially his holiness but also His electing love and grace.
Also it provides many rich lessons concerning the holy life that God expects of His people. Many New Testament passages, including some key concepts in the Epistle to the Hebrews, cannot be evaluated properly without a clear understanding of their counterparts in the Book of Leviticus."
Happy Reading!
"The Book of Leviticus was the first book studied by a Jewish child; yet is often among the last books of the Bible to be studied by a Christian. However, a book referred to about 40 times in the New Testament should be of great significance to every Christian. Apart from the question of the typological significance of the Levitical sacrifices, the Book of Leviticus contains extensive revelation concerning the character of God - especially his holiness but also His electing love and grace.
Also it provides many rich lessons concerning the holy life that God expects of His people. Many New Testament passages, including some key concepts in the Epistle to the Hebrews, cannot be evaluated properly without a clear understanding of their counterparts in the Book of Leviticus."
Happy Reading!
Saturday, February 1, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 4
I continue to learn lessons every day. God has been very good to me, allowing me to continue to learn as the years pile on. And, in many cases, it seems that my learning comes as a result of my flubs and failures. Nonetheless, learning takes place! Over 20 years of pastoral ministry, I certainly learned a lot; and I recount some of those lessons here. If for nothing else, these remind me of the privilege of being a pastor, and my faithful God who keeps teaching me about Him!
Lesson 4: I have learned to give people, and the hurtful things they say, to God
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words have caused a lot more damage.
I think I was naïve going into ministry. Even though I am sure someone must have told me about some of the nasty things that are said to pastors, I don't remember hearing about it. It may have been that someone said something, but I thought what most think before they experience it: "oh, it probably wasn't that bad"; or, "you probably deserved it"; or, "what did you say first"?; or, "it will never happen to me!". I don't remember being prepared for it in any of my Bible college or seminary classes. I suppose it is one of those things that is hard to prepare you for; but it would have been nice to try!
My unrealistic expectation was that I would love the people and the people would love me. As long as I treated them kindly, they would treat me kindly. And I couldn't imagine any Christian being intentionally mean and nasty. Why would they? I don't know if this has every been answered satisfactorily. Any pastor I have ever spoken to, who has been honest, and has not spent his ministry days just pleasing people, has had some unimaginable things said to him, by his own congregation. And no matter how hard I tried to be nice and kind and have people like me, I also received comments that I would have never thought possible before I entered ministry. I mean, I imagined that there were damaging words spoken to leaders in all other fields of work; but not in ministry, not in the church, right?
I will not recount all the nastiness from my 20 years of ministry, but I can remember the 3 worst things I was ever called (that I can remember). They were all delivered in different ways: by anonymous note following a morning service; by phone call; and in a personal meeting. In all 3 cases, I was taken aback, and surprised. Even though these 3 people did not agree with me about something, I did not expect them to call names. Although I don't know who the anonymous writer was (I have my guesses), it was certainly someone from the church, who knew about our mailbox system, since it was put there during my message. These were involved members of my churches, and seen by others as very godly. But, as I can attest about myself, there are times when even godly people do ungodly things.
What did they call me? Hitler, Howard Stern, and the Devil. I'm pretty sure they meant these all in a negative way. I was called Hitler because of my leadership on a particular matter in missions. I was called Howard Stern because of a message illustration they disagreed with. And I was called the Devil, because the person believed I was using God's Word in a twisted, self-serving way. And although you might laugh about these, when they are aimed, seriously, at you, it is hard not to take them personal, and not to be hurt by them.
Here is what I learned through these and other similar circumstances, where people have called me names and said other nasty things: if I don't give those comments and the people who made the comments to God, then I will be full of discouragement, anger, bitterness, or some other negative emotion that will keep me from honoring God and growing through this. I am not saying I have perfected this, or am never hurt by other's words. But, what I have learned to do is summed up well in this verse of the Bible, which describes what Jesus did when He was unjustly criticized:
I Peter 2:23 - "When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly."
Lesson 4: I have learned to give people, and the hurtful things they say, to God
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words have caused a lot more damage.
I think I was naïve going into ministry. Even though I am sure someone must have told me about some of the nasty things that are said to pastors, I don't remember hearing about it. It may have been that someone said something, but I thought what most think before they experience it: "oh, it probably wasn't that bad"; or, "you probably deserved it"; or, "what did you say first"?; or, "it will never happen to me!". I don't remember being prepared for it in any of my Bible college or seminary classes. I suppose it is one of those things that is hard to prepare you for; but it would have been nice to try!
My unrealistic expectation was that I would love the people and the people would love me. As long as I treated them kindly, they would treat me kindly. And I couldn't imagine any Christian being intentionally mean and nasty. Why would they? I don't know if this has every been answered satisfactorily. Any pastor I have ever spoken to, who has been honest, and has not spent his ministry days just pleasing people, has had some unimaginable things said to him, by his own congregation. And no matter how hard I tried to be nice and kind and have people like me, I also received comments that I would have never thought possible before I entered ministry. I mean, I imagined that there were damaging words spoken to leaders in all other fields of work; but not in ministry, not in the church, right?
I will not recount all the nastiness from my 20 years of ministry, but I can remember the 3 worst things I was ever called (that I can remember). They were all delivered in different ways: by anonymous note following a morning service; by phone call; and in a personal meeting. In all 3 cases, I was taken aback, and surprised. Even though these 3 people did not agree with me about something, I did not expect them to call names. Although I don't know who the anonymous writer was (I have my guesses), it was certainly someone from the church, who knew about our mailbox system, since it was put there during my message. These were involved members of my churches, and seen by others as very godly. But, as I can attest about myself, there are times when even godly people do ungodly things.
What did they call me? Hitler, Howard Stern, and the Devil. I'm pretty sure they meant these all in a negative way. I was called Hitler because of my leadership on a particular matter in missions. I was called Howard Stern because of a message illustration they disagreed with. And I was called the Devil, because the person believed I was using God's Word in a twisted, self-serving way. And although you might laugh about these, when they are aimed, seriously, at you, it is hard not to take them personal, and not to be hurt by them.
Here is what I learned through these and other similar circumstances, where people have called me names and said other nasty things: if I don't give those comments and the people who made the comments to God, then I will be full of discouragement, anger, bitterness, or some other negative emotion that will keep me from honoring God and growing through this. I am not saying I have perfected this, or am never hurt by other's words. But, what I have learned to do is summed up well in this verse of the Bible, which describes what Jesus did when He was unjustly criticized:
I Peter 2:23 - "When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly."
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
What did the Bible just say?
In reading through the Bible this year, it didn't take long for us to read things that don't make immediate sense. There are cultural customs and Old Testament practices and laws that are very unfamiliar to us. There are lists of names, which are hard to pronounce; and there are times, we come away from reading, and ask (in our own minds): What did I just read? Or even: Was that worth it?
Don't feel like you are unspiritual if you are asking those questions. In fact, if we don't have any questions, it probably means we are not reading closely enough; and we are not interested in growing in our knowledge and application of God's Word. There is always more answers that need to be found; and they usually come after we are willing to ask some good questions.
Since we have completed Genesis and are nearing the end of Exodus, there are already many unique passages that we have covered. And as we get into Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy, the questions that arise will increase; and the uniqueness of the content will get more unique! Be prepared. Don't quit. Keep reading; but read as one who desires to learn. Allow me to give you some hints to make the most out of reading these particular books of the Bible.
Don't feel like you are unspiritual if you are asking those questions. In fact, if we don't have any questions, it probably means we are not reading closely enough; and we are not interested in growing in our knowledge and application of God's Word. There is always more answers that need to be found; and they usually come after we are willing to ask some good questions.
Since we have completed Genesis and are nearing the end of Exodus, there are already many unique passages that we have covered. And as we get into Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy, the questions that arise will increase; and the uniqueness of the content will get more unique! Be prepared. Don't quit. Keep reading; but read as one who desires to learn. Allow me to give you some hints to make the most out of reading these particular books of the Bible.
- Read out loud - Reading out loud will add to your comprehension just because it forces you to slow down and pay better attention to what you are reading
- Read with expression - one way to better comprehend what is going on is to read it dramatically, trying to imagine and express what is being communicated in the passage
- Write down your questions - when a question comes to mind, from something you are reading, write it down. Rather than stopping, jot a note and keep reading. Sometimes the rest of the passage will answer your question. Otherwise, you then will remember what to follow up on later because you wrote it down
- Remember that everything written down in these Old Testament narratives are not commands for us, in particular; and every character is not an example for us to follow. It is important to consider that some of the promises and commands to particular individuals, and some of the actions they take, are unique to them. And if they are not repeated elsewhere in Scripture, they may not be things we need to try and apply in that same way.
- We can always learn something about God. Even if the material you are reading is hard to understand, or trying to figure out an application seems impossible with that particular passage, look for something about God. Usually, there are either direct or indirect teachings about who God is and what He has done. If the passage can draw your attention to God, then it is well worth it.
- Look for principles that are talked about elsewhere in the Bible. If it is a biblical principle, illustrated by this particular passage, then you can consider how to apply it to life
- Allow the reading of God's Word to be the benefit. Even if you don't come away from your reading excited with some new knowledge or a vision of how you are supposed to change your life because of the passage you just read, be at peace. Just the fact that you spent some time reading God's Word to you, means that you desire to know Him and follow Him. And that is enough. God will use this practice in your life, now and in the future; and perhaps in ways you cannot yet see. Be patient...and keep reading!
Thursday, January 23, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 3
As I look back on 20 years (including some times of transition) of being a pastor, many thoughts and feelings flood my head and heart. This is a good way for me to get them written down, and re-experience these important lessons God has taught me. Just as a disclaimer: I don't pretend to have all of this figured out; or even that these lessons are completely learned. I realize I will continue to learn and re-learn lessons in ministry until God decides to call me to something else, or take me home.
Lesson 3: I have learned to preach to myself before preaching to others
One of the temptations of ministry is to get so excited about communicating God's Word, and seeing Him work in people's lives, that we forget what is really the best communication that will have lasting impact. If I am disconnected from the truths I am preaching, then it is up to my ability to creatively communicate to and motivate others to believe that what I am saying is worth listening to and applying to life. However, if I have already listened to God's Word myself and am currently applying it to my life, the message will be an overflow from a heart that has already wrestled with these truths and submitted himself to them.
I'm not sure when, exactly, this hit home for me. It was probably about 10 years ago when it really took hold. I don't remember any particular incident; but I think I recognized that unless I was growing and putting the messages to life, I would be preaching in my own power, which eventually fails. But, if I was preaching, based on the work of God's Spirit, using His Word to continually change me; well then, who knows how God might use that to change others as well. People tend to know when you are just saying something or when you are actually living it yourself. When someone is trying to sell us something, some natural questions might be: Have you actually used the product? Are you currently using the product? Will you continue to use the product, even if you no longer work for the company. The same could be asked of the pastor: Have you applied this passage of Scripture to your life? Are you currently growing in your faith? Will you continue to apply this message, even after you have preached it to others? Will you share with us how God is currently working in your life?
For some time, in ministry, I was specifically telling the congregation each week how I had already applied that particular message to my life the week prior. Perhaps I will do that again, where I talk about it every single week. I think, for now, I will just continue to consider my own personal application, and where appropriate, I will share with the people how God has been using these messages in my life as well.
Lesson 3: I have learned to preach to myself before preaching to others
One of the temptations of ministry is to get so excited about communicating God's Word, and seeing Him work in people's lives, that we forget what is really the best communication that will have lasting impact. If I am disconnected from the truths I am preaching, then it is up to my ability to creatively communicate to and motivate others to believe that what I am saying is worth listening to and applying to life. However, if I have already listened to God's Word myself and am currently applying it to my life, the message will be an overflow from a heart that has already wrestled with these truths and submitted himself to them.
I'm not sure when, exactly, this hit home for me. It was probably about 10 years ago when it really took hold. I don't remember any particular incident; but I think I recognized that unless I was growing and putting the messages to life, I would be preaching in my own power, which eventually fails. But, if I was preaching, based on the work of God's Spirit, using His Word to continually change me; well then, who knows how God might use that to change others as well. People tend to know when you are just saying something or when you are actually living it yourself. When someone is trying to sell us something, some natural questions might be: Have you actually used the product? Are you currently using the product? Will you continue to use the product, even if you no longer work for the company. The same could be asked of the pastor: Have you applied this passage of Scripture to your life? Are you currently growing in your faith? Will you continue to apply this message, even after you have preached it to others? Will you share with us how God is currently working in your life?
For some time, in ministry, I was specifically telling the congregation each week how I had already applied that particular message to my life the week prior. Perhaps I will do that again, where I talk about it every single week. I think, for now, I will just continue to consider my own personal application, and where appropriate, I will share with the people how God has been using these messages in my life as well.
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
20 LESSONS IN 20 YEARS: LESSON 2
I have had the privilege of serving God, in ministry, for more than 20 years. Along the way, I have learned many lessons; and I am taking some time to recall them here. I am writing this mostly for myself, to remind me of what God has taught me; and to continue in them. I would also love to be an encouragement to others in ministry, at some point in the future. I don't have these in order or even a set list. No doubt there are many more lessons learned; and some I have already forgotten. But these are the ones God brings to mind as I consider them.
Lesson 2: I have learned to be transparent
This is not easy: to be honest and transparent with others as we serve as pastors. I do think it is vitally important, but I realize many in ministry would heartily disagree with this. I can't convince them that this is an important thing; but I can share why it is an important lesson I have learned and am learning.
The tendency, as a pastor, is to be outspoken about how others need to grow; but to be very careful not to show how weak and sinful and desperate he actually is. It is tempting to only give stories about myself that are flattering and where I did the right thing. It can be a fearful thing to be completely honest and transparent, because people might not like me, might think bad things about me; and worse yet, might think I should no longer be their pastor. I have experienced all of those responses.
It is against human nature to talk about what our lives are really like.
But, I have learned, that it is through transparency and honesty, that I remain humble and people are not as likely to put me on a dangerous pedestal. They realize that although I have a different role than they do, I am just like them in my sin struggles. I have found that those who are also desperate for God find comfort, strength and help when their pastor is also willing to admit how desperate he is. I admit: it has been uncomfortable for me, and I realize there needs to be wisdom as to what exactly to share with whom and when. But, instead of making excuses for why I shouldn't share, or what might happen that seems negative, I have learned to pray, and then share what details I think God would want me to share.
I remember, in a previous ministry, when I preached through the Ten Commandments, I preached an introductory message: "How I broke all 10 Commandments". My intention was not to "brag" in any way, but to humbly admit, that in the technical sense, or in Jesus' viewpoint of them, I had broken every commandment. And if you know what the commandments are, then you can understand why that could have been uncomfortable. But, in explaining my failures, it helped all us (except for those who chose to focus on my sins) to realize just how real these commands are even today; and how we all can be tempted to break any or all of them. It ended up being one of my most enjoyable and effective message series; but it all began, I believe, with transparency and honesty.
Now, don't think that I never fail in this...I do. But, it is my desire, after wrestling with this issue for 20 years, to keep sharing the reality of my life with the people of God in this place. One way I attempt to do this each week, is to make sure before I communicate and apply God's Word to others, that I apply that same message to my life. I want the message to be an overflow of what God is doing in my heart before I tell others; and part of that is sharing, along the way, what God is teaching me.
Lesson 2: I have learned to be transparent
This is not easy: to be honest and transparent with others as we serve as pastors. I do think it is vitally important, but I realize many in ministry would heartily disagree with this. I can't convince them that this is an important thing; but I can share why it is an important lesson I have learned and am learning.
The tendency, as a pastor, is to be outspoken about how others need to grow; but to be very careful not to show how weak and sinful and desperate he actually is. It is tempting to only give stories about myself that are flattering and where I did the right thing. It can be a fearful thing to be completely honest and transparent, because people might not like me, might think bad things about me; and worse yet, might think I should no longer be their pastor. I have experienced all of those responses.
It is against human nature to talk about what our lives are really like.
But, I have learned, that it is through transparency and honesty, that I remain humble and people are not as likely to put me on a dangerous pedestal. They realize that although I have a different role than they do, I am just like them in my sin struggles. I have found that those who are also desperate for God find comfort, strength and help when their pastor is also willing to admit how desperate he is. I admit: it has been uncomfortable for me, and I realize there needs to be wisdom as to what exactly to share with whom and when. But, instead of making excuses for why I shouldn't share, or what might happen that seems negative, I have learned to pray, and then share what details I think God would want me to share.
I remember, in a previous ministry, when I preached through the Ten Commandments, I preached an introductory message: "How I broke all 10 Commandments". My intention was not to "brag" in any way, but to humbly admit, that in the technical sense, or in Jesus' viewpoint of them, I had broken every commandment. And if you know what the commandments are, then you can understand why that could have been uncomfortable. But, in explaining my failures, it helped all us (except for those who chose to focus on my sins) to realize just how real these commands are even today; and how we all can be tempted to break any or all of them. It ended up being one of my most enjoyable and effective message series; but it all began, I believe, with transparency and honesty.
Now, don't think that I never fail in this...I do. But, it is my desire, after wrestling with this issue for 20 years, to keep sharing the reality of my life with the people of God in this place. One way I attempt to do this each week, is to make sure before I communicate and apply God's Word to others, that I apply that same message to my life. I want the message to be an overflow of what God is doing in my heart before I tell others; and part of that is sharing, along the way, what God is teaching me.
Saturday, January 11, 2014
20 LESSONS FROM 20 YEARS - LESSON 1
It is hard for me to believe that it was back in December of 1993 that I accepted my first ministry as a full-time pastor. These 20 years have gone so quickly. I have learned so much. I thought it would be helpful for me, and an encouragement for my mom (who is the one person I am pretty sure reads my blog), to write down some of the lessons God has taught me over these years of ministry. None of these are unique to me; and yet these are the things God has brought to my mind and heart, as it relates to some important lessons I have learned.
LESSON 1: I have learned to boast in God, my weaknesses, and the cross of Jesus.
When I first began ministry, and in many years that I have served, I admit that there were a couple of things I wanted to boast in. However, this boasting was not in anything I had accomplished, but in what I hoped to accomplish one day: Having a large, growing church; and being in one ministry for over 20 years. I thought having a large church (not sure the exact number I had in mind) was a sign of God's blessing; and I thought being at one church for over 20 years (not sure why I chose that number) was a sign of my faithfulness and leadership. I was wrong. I'm not saying that those in large churches or that have stayed for over 20 years are not blessed by God, or are not faithful or good leaders. They may be. In fact, I look up to many of them.
But, I believe that one of the reasons God has allowed me to be in smaller churches and well short of 20 years in each, is because He had a very important lesson for me to learn. And I am guessing that if I had only been in one church all these years and had a large, growing church, that God knew I would not have learned it. I believe in the sovereignty of God; and therefore, I believe God has had His hand on this the entire 20 years. And even with my sins, mistakes, and failures, it has not kept God from teaching me some very important lessons, and accomplishing His will and bringing Himself glory!
This lesson is, of course, not some great idea I came up with on my own. It was written thousands of years ago; but I am just learning it. Here are some of the Scriptures that speak to this lesson about boasting:
Psalm 34:2 - "My soul makes its boast in the LORD; let the humble hear and be glad."
II Corinthians 11:30 - "If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness."
Galatians 6:14 - "But far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world."
So, over the years, God has given me some things to boast about; and these have helped to keep my attention and focus, when I am tempted to want to boast about big congregations and long term pastorates.
LESSON 1: I have learned to boast in God, my weaknesses, and the cross of Jesus.
When I first began ministry, and in many years that I have served, I admit that there were a couple of things I wanted to boast in. However, this boasting was not in anything I had accomplished, but in what I hoped to accomplish one day: Having a large, growing church; and being in one ministry for over 20 years. I thought having a large church (not sure the exact number I had in mind) was a sign of God's blessing; and I thought being at one church for over 20 years (not sure why I chose that number) was a sign of my faithfulness and leadership. I was wrong. I'm not saying that those in large churches or that have stayed for over 20 years are not blessed by God, or are not faithful or good leaders. They may be. In fact, I look up to many of them.
But, I believe that one of the reasons God has allowed me to be in smaller churches and well short of 20 years in each, is because He had a very important lesson for me to learn. And I am guessing that if I had only been in one church all these years and had a large, growing church, that God knew I would not have learned it. I believe in the sovereignty of God; and therefore, I believe God has had His hand on this the entire 20 years. And even with my sins, mistakes, and failures, it has not kept God from teaching me some very important lessons, and accomplishing His will and bringing Himself glory!
This lesson is, of course, not some great idea I came up with on my own. It was written thousands of years ago; but I am just learning it. Here are some of the Scriptures that speak to this lesson about boasting:
Psalm 34:2 - "My soul makes its boast in the LORD; let the humble hear and be glad."
II Corinthians 11:30 - "If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness."
Galatians 6:14 - "But far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world."
So, over the years, God has given me some things to boast about; and these have helped to keep my attention and focus, when I am tempted to want to boast about big congregations and long term pastorates.
- I will boast in God. He alone deserves my praise!
- I will boast in my weaknesses, because in them I have seen God's work and how He can still use me.
- I will boast in the cross of Jesus, for it is through His death, burial and resurrection that I can have eternal life; and that others can have it as well.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
HAPPY NEW YEAR???
I would expect to see !!! rather than ??? following the Happy New Year statement, wouldn't you? And just in case you wonder if my hangover from New Year's Eve celebrations have caused the mistake, let me assure you that this time, it was on purpose! Last night was a little different celebration for our family. Although we had all 7 of us home, 2 of us were sick (to the point of not sitting next to each other or being close to one another) and 2 of us seemed "on the edge" of sickness. We still were able to (from different rooms) talk about our highs and lows of 2013, and pray for one another as we enter a New Year (although the prayer time was around 6 p.m. rather than midnight - does that still count?). Normally, we have a lot of people over and play games, and then go watch the ball drop on TV, with about a minute left to midnight.
It was a little different this year.
The 2 "sickies" were in bed long before midnight, but the rest of us watched the last 10 minutes to the ball dropping, going back and forth between 3 different stations. I was not used to watching more than the last minute before the ball drops; and after watching several minutes from 3 different stations, I started placing question marks instead of exclamation points at the end of the phrase: Happy New Year. This is why (only based on the small sampling I viewed):
It was a little different this year.
The 2 "sickies" were in bed long before midnight, but the rest of us watched the last 10 minutes to the ball dropping, going back and forth between 3 different stations. I was not used to watching more than the last minute before the ball drops; and after watching several minutes from 3 different stations, I started placing question marks instead of exclamation points at the end of the phrase: Happy New Year. This is why (only based on the small sampling I viewed):
- No goals to shoot for in 2014. They lamented that setting goals makes no difference because no one keeps those goals (New Year's resolutions) very long. That may be true, but having nothing to shoot for in the New Year pretty much guarantees a year of "seeing what happens" and if anything, pursuing things that are not really important.
- Nothing to say - The channels I watched in those last 10 minutes were using commercials very freely; and when they weren't on commercial, in all 3 cases, they were having a very hard time finding anything substantive to say. It seemed odd to me, especially in a business where talking is what they are paid for, that they couldn't come up with a good conversation for the final minutes of 2013 and anticipating the new year.
- Let's go with sex - It seemed like, in the last several minutes of the countdown to the new year, the best thing the stations could think of talking about and showing, had to do with sensual images and talk of girls kissing one another being the highlight of the night. I have nothing against sex. God created it and it is an awesome thing when used His way. I should not have been surprised, but when they didn't seem to know what to show or talk about, the default was sexuality.
These are the 3 things that come to my mind as I think about the final 10 minutes of the New Year, from the media's perspective. And, of course, with the actual ball dropping, there then came a lot of kissing, noise making and drinking. And unfortunately, because of 1 of the significant "sickies" in my household, there was no kissing for me! My limited view of how they perceived the end of last year and the beginning of this New Year caused me to place the question marks in my head, and now in this entry.
Followers of Jesus have a much greater opportunity for a Happy New Year!!!
- There are many blessings to praise God for from 2013
- The fact that we are still here means that God is still saving people and still using us
- Each new day brings opportunities to learn of God and to walk with Him
- There are many blessings to praise God for, already, in 2014 (family, friends, life, etc.)
- We can have peace and joy, in any circumstance (past, present or future) because we have Christ!
- Jesus may return in 2014!
- If our complete satisfaction is in Christ, then we are guaranteed a Happy New Year (because even death brings us a greater reward).
So, let's enter into 2014 with !!! even as there are many ??? as to what we might face in the New Year. The !!! are what we already have and know about who is in control of the future; and this allows us to !!! in the midst of many ??? that will arise. I don't feel I am making a whole lot of sense so far in 2014; but I am willing to continue to give full effort! May you find your happiness this year in the only source that provides true joy, peace, and eternal life!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
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